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Default Jun 20, 2013 at 06:11 PM
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but can't they tell by examining your eyes? for some reason, dark circles form around my eyes after I'm on the computer for too long.
Dark circle around the eyes is usually related to sleep deprivation. Lots of reasons for that. Staying up to late playing call of duty for example, or whatever keep you up at night.

I don't know how much porn you watch, but if it is in the hours a day range, then maybe cut back a bit and live some. Personally I just need ten minutes and then I am ready for a nap. That is just me though. If you feel you have a problem with it, there are sex therapist you could talk to. Theu deal with this kind of thing a lot and they can help you determine how much it is affecting your life.

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Dark circle around the eyes is usually related to sleep deprivation. Lots of reasons for that. Staying up to late playing call of duty for example, or whatever keep you up at night.

I don't know how much porn you watch, but if it is in the hours a day range, then maybe cut back a bit and live some. Personally I just need ten minutes and then I am ready for a nap. That is just me though. If you feel you have a problem with it, there are sex therapist you could talk to. Theu deal with this kind of thing a lot and they can help you determine how much it is affecting your life.
I usually watch porn til i ejaculate. once i ejaculate i go what the hell am i doing? this is so disgusting. why do i feel that way? it's like someone's holding me captive and then when the right moment arrives for me to be set free, I just start running away.
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I first heard about masturbation at the age of 12 when my younger friends told me what it was and i was like eww that's weird.
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Cant seem to stop the urge sometimes. I feel like getting rid of it right away but I also don't want to ejaculate. doesn't holding back fluid cause prostate cancer or is it the other way around?
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I usually watch porn til i ejaculate. once i ejaculate i go what the hell am i doing? this is so disgusting. why do i feel that way? it's like someone's holding me captive and then when the right moment arrives for me to be set free, I just start running away.
The whole point of masturbating is having an orgasm in my opinion. Otherwise it is like baking a cake and then throwing it in the toilet. It was a lot of work for nothing.

The thing holding you captive is 17 year old hormones. Your body is full of testosterone and it is an evolutionary urge to procreate. We live in a civilised societity and so can't just go up to a mate and start having sex. The next best thing is to satsify the urge with masturbation. From a biological standpoint.

From a cognitive standpoint, orgasms feel really good, don't have many drawbacks and you can have one pretty much whenever you want.

The thing that may make you feel disgusted is bot being comfortable with yourself, influences in your life telling you it is wrong, or being caught doing it and being embarrassed.

Or the possibility of sexual abuse. That is a whole other bag of worms though, and if that is the case I would urge you to seek some help in dealing with those issues. Sexual abuse can create all kinds of internal conflicts and cause a lot of confusion.

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Cant seem to stop the urge sometimes. I feel like getting rid of it right away but I also don't want to ejaculate. doesn't holding back fluid cause prostate cancer or is it the other way around?

Not taking care of yourself can cause vasocongestion (slang term is blue balls). It can be painful and really sucks. It goes away in a few hours as the body drains the excess fluid.

I remember reading articles that said orgasms reduce the chance of prostate cancer. A.small bonus I guess.

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Default Jun 20, 2013 at 06:37 PM
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I like to view porn, I am obviously female. My H and I watch together, or I watch alone. Due to circumstances it does nothing for me, but it is nice to see nice female friendly guy and girl porn. Where the people act like they love each other.

I talked to the T about this today. And she said, sure watch it, go ahead. Watch it together or alone, there is a lot to be learned. It is a problem when porn takes the place of opportunities to go out, it is more important then taking care of your needs, in place of work or getting groceries or if it consumes your every waking moment. I really didn't expect the T to say go for it.

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I'm clearly not as good as Adam K when it comes to advice giving, but I try to tell things like it is.

Maybe it's because I began sexual exploration at an early age, but you seem to be way too old to be just beginning to figure things out. At 17 most guys have already had sex, and yet you are feel guilty and are almost afraid to even touch yourself. You don't allow yourself the freedom to enjoy masturbating or watching porn and for reasons you haven't clarified, you punish yourself when you do enjoy yourself. You act like you are the only person who does this, but the truth is most guys masturbate and watch porn on a daily basis and it is considered normal behavior. Your problem is not an addiction, it's purely an irrational fear of being abnormal. Once you realize that you are just like everybody else who masturbates, you won't feel so alienated.
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Risperdal, Topomax, and Geodon killed my sex drive entirely and completely.

Some people report problems from Prozac but all the reactions to individual medications are idiosyncratic and unpredictable.
Add Celexa to the mix!!! Completely killed it! Was good when I was getting a divorce(didn't want to go there with him, again, but yeah...)
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There was a male discussing that these meds kill the drive and have other effects. On PC. Maybe, men don't want to discuss that aspect, the way women tend to be open about it??

I believe the original question was age? 12

How often, in and out of relationships, enough to know being on a med that kills my drive isn't what I want in life.

If the goal of masturbation, is to have an orgasm.....

well...then...now you know.

Once told a male friend, who um, was having troubles with his love life, that unless a woman knows how to please herself, how can she be a better lover? ((his loss not wanting to meet me, after 3-6 years of knowing each other via email friendship))

Thought my T was going to go through the roof, when I told him the side effect to Celexa, "Thought you said you didn't have a boyfriend" ((I don't right now...doctor ))

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Also, is it common for medication to interfere with a woman's sex drive? Is there specific medication that causes this? Does it affect women at specific ages? I don't hear guys talking about this much and I'm rather ignorant over certain matters of female sexuality. That's why being here is so interesting

It's interesting that all the contributions have been from females so far, are women more open than guys on here or are there just more of you?
Either way thanks for all the replies so far.
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Prozac killed my sex drive and made it really hard to have an orgasm even alone. I still had sex, but it was more because I wanted to make her happy than I "needed" it. On wellbutrin it is sort of the opposite effect than Prozac. I don't have more of a desire than normal, but I get there faster, which for me isn't a bad thing since before the meds it used to take a little while to finish.

I'm sure meds have a different effect on everyone though.

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The whole point of masturbating is having an orgasm in my opinion. Otherwise it is like baking a cake and then throwing it in the toilet. It was a lot of work for nothing.

The thing holding you captive is 17 year old hormones. Your body is full of testosterone and it is an evolutionary urge to procreate. We live in a civilised societity and so can't just go up to a mate and start having sex. The next best thing is to satsify the urge with masturbation. From a biological standpoint.

From a cognitive standpoint, orgasms feel really good, don't have many drawbacks and you can have one pretty much whenever you want.

The thing that may make you feel disgusted is bot being comfortable with yourself, influences in your life telling you it is wrong, or being caught doing it and being embarrassed.

Or the possibility of sexual abuse. That is a whole other bag of worms though, and if that is the case I would urge you to seek some help in dealing with those issues. Sexual abuse can create all kinds of internal conflicts and cause a lot of confusion.
the holding me captive part is about something that prevents me from escaping, and the running part represents my coming to my senses and then just stopping the activity for a second.
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I'm clearly not as good as Adam K when it comes to advice giving, but I try to tell things like it is.

Maybe it's because I began sexual exploration at an early age, but you seem to be way too old to be just beginning to figure things out. At 17 most guys have already had sex, and yet you are feel guilty and are almost afraid to even touch yourself. You don't allow yourself the freedom to enjoy masturbating or watching porn and for reasons you haven't clarified, you punish yourself when you do enjoy yourself. You act like you are the only person who does this, but the truth is most guys masturbate and watch porn on a daily basis and it is considered normal behavior. Your problem is not an addiction, it's purely an irrational fear of being abnormal. Once you realize that you are just like everybody else who masturbates, you won't feel so alienated.
I don't really know you guys well enough but i think that if i had better things to do i would not want to spend my time watching porn. Just like a couple of people who are dating would want to spend time with their boyfriends or girlfriends instead of consuming porn on their own. If I had one, I would not be doing this. Since I don't have one and my friends are busy on the weekends, I have nothing to do. As a result, i stay home alone and I just indulge in porn. I don't like it but I keep doing it.
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Prozac killed my sex drive and made it really hard to have an orgasm even alone. I still had sex, but it was more because I wanted to make her happy than I "needed" it. On wellbutrin it is sort of the opposite effect than Prozac. I don't have more of a desire than normal, but I get there faster, which for me isn't a bad thing since before the meds it used to take a little while to finish.

I'm sure meds have a different effect on everyone though.
I don't think prozac killed my sex drive. I have taken it before and it did me no good. I still masturbated.
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Do you know American history well enough to understand that you need to treat the issue of your porn use the same way FDR treated the issues with unemployment? Do you get where I am going with this suggestion?
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If you want my advice, tell some girl (or guy) that you like them. Even if you only find them mildly attractive and don't have much of a connection. Reach out and develop yourself. I don't mean sexually, but get to know someone romantically. It is what a lot of 17 year olds do, and it will make you feel better about this whole porn thing and not fret so much.

Reach out until you find someone who digs you. Enjoy being 17, and try not to be so critical of yourself. You may get rejected a few times and that sucks, but eventual you will find some who like you and that you like and you both figured it out at the same time.

You can hold yourself to rigourous standards, deny yourself masturbation, sex, or even relationships, but what good does that do?

I used to be somewhat of a perfectionist, and I was only happy with myself if did the best and it was flawless. I held myself to unrealistic standards for not much good, and a lot of angry at myself for doing what most people do. I'm not sensing you are a perfectionist but I am picking up that you are angry at yourself for doing what comes natural to a 17 year old male. Try to cut yourself some slack and enjoy being 17.

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If you want my advice, tell some girl (or guy) that you like them. Even if you only find them mildly attractive and don't have much of a connection. Reach out and develop yourself. I don't mean sexually, but get to know someone romantically. It is what a lot of 17 year olds do, and it will make you feel better about this whole porn thing and not fret so much.

Reach out until you find someone who digs you. Enjoy being 17, and try not to be so critical of yourself. You may get rejected a few times and that sucks, but eventual you will find some who like you and that you like and you both figured it out at the same time.

You can hold yourself to rigourous standards, deny yourself masturbation, sex, or even relationships, but what good does that do?

I used to be somewhat of a perfectionist, and I was only happy with myself if did the best and it was flawless. I held myself to unrealistic standards for not much good, and a lot of angry at myself for doing what most people do. I'm not sensing you are a perfectionist but I am picking up that you are angry at yourself for doing what comes natural to a 17 year old male. Try to cut yourself some slack and enjoy being 17.
Speaking of being rejected, I remember when I was in fourth grade, I told a few of my classmates that i had a crush on her and then they related it to her. After that, she began to ignore me and for a long time we did not speak to each other until like maybe the end of the year. She probably thought that since I'm not going to be in the same class as him next year, I might as well talk to him the way that i did when i first met him.
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If you want my advice, tell some girl (or guy) that you like them. Even if you only find them mildly attractive and don't have much of a connection. Reach out and develop yourself. I don't mean sexually, but get to know someone romantically. It is what a lot of 17 year olds do, and it will make you feel better about this whole porn thing and not fret so much.

Reach out until you find someone who digs you. Enjoy being 17, and try not to be so critical of yourself. You may get rejected a few times and that sucks, but eventual you will find some who like you and that you like and you both figured it out at the same time.

You can hold yourself to rigourous standards, deny yourself masturbation, sex, or even relationships, but what good does that do?

I used to be somewhat of a perfectionist, and I was only happy with myself if did the best and it was flawless. I held myself to unrealistic standards for not much good, and a lot of angry at myself for doing what most people do. I'm not sensing you are a perfectionist but I am picking up that you are angry at yourself for doing what comes natural to a 17 year old male. Try to cut yourself some slack and enjoy being 17.
I am far from being a perfectionist. In fact, I don't want to develop friendships with people who are perfectionists because they love to criticize people for every mistake that they make.
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I am far from being a perfectionist. In fact, I don't want to develop friendships with people who are perfectionists because they love to criticize people for every mistake that they make.

I don't mean to say you are a pefectionist, but you are hard on yourself. I think you would be happier if you cut yourself some slack and enjoyed yourself .

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I don't mean to say you are a pefectionist, but you are hard on yourself. I think you would be happier if you cut yourself some slack and enjoyed yourself .
honestly what's the matter with this generation? everyone is so freakin' liberal allowing so many things to happen, like sex, drugs, alcohol, etc...I don't want to be a part of this mess.
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