Masturbation

Well that part - about reading the signals sent to you by others around you - may be fixable via skills training/therapy. That part does not call for medication, per se.

asians have a lot to say sometimes, I guess. Older asian women that I have seen on the bus would talk about how others were not acting the way they should, but the more i overhear their conversations, the less hypocritical they are. They tend to do the same too.

when my current therapist, the one that I can trust more, told me that I was just being paranoid, I was like oh thank goodness it was just me. If the world knew, i'd be screwed. then again, they can't be too judgmental themselves since they themselves have addictions or nasty habits that they've been meaning to get rid of. Maybe. Everyone has something to hide. I believe that's true for everyone.

Porn can cause dark circles under your eyes.... if you watch it all night instead of sleeping.

You absolutely need to talk to a therapist or psychologist. No one can sense that you watched porn, and on top of that, probably none of the people who were looking at you care if you watched porn or not. But you really really need to talk to a professional. Something is definitely going on to make you so anxious about this.

Okay, first, let's not call him a moron. I just so happen to like talking to him.
I told him that I was masturbating and porning and he just started to explain a bunch of stuff, which I can't quite remember since I'm a visual learner, not an audio learner. He goes on and on and I only caught the ones that I needed to hear of, or rather, the ones that I felt were the most relevant.

I think it's because of the fact htat I want to cover up for my actions. Like before I go every morning, I would feel dirty and everything and then i would wash the area where the seminal fluids had been discharged. Hope you're not grossed out, but i will be very honest with you. then I try to wash my face and examine any "telltale" signs so that if others think i look clean, then they will assume that this guy cannot be addicted to any porn or other stuff.

OK, good you "met" me on here since I do not watch porn and I do have a documented deficit with analytical thinking (documented via IQ testing by a neuropsychologist) - I tend towards the concrete side of things. It is possible to work on becoming more analytical, and I am doing that, but the point remains that one can be insufficiently analytical while not watching any porn.

In other words, there is absolutely no relationship between A and B so you need to chill about that. That you identified being too concrete is actually GREAT NEWS because your next lucky step might then be to see that you took all those admonitions - be chaste, be pure! - literally, concretely, and at face value. That seems to be the cause of your suffering. If indeed that is all - just a large scale failure to apply any sort of analytical thinking to your situation - then perhaps you can get away without antipsychotics. At any rate, great job picking up on that in school.

not all night, just maybe a few minutes of it. However, I do spend a lot of my time on forums, like this one and another one suitable for my age.

That's not possible. Porn is only a visual stimuli just like looking at a painting. If you stare at a computer screen for an extremely long time, you could hurt your eyes or something. But I promise you that porn is not affecting your brain. However, your guilt from watching porn might be.

thank you for making a dummy like me feel better. I don't know anything about this stuff. HOw do you guys know all htis? what classes did you guys take? or is it just common sense altogether?

but i can never be "pure" because of seminal discharge. Luckily i'm doing it on my own. I feel like most of my time porn needs to be accompanied by masturbation. I have not gone without masturbation on any of the porn that I have watched.

I feel like porn makes me want to have sex with someone. but i prefer masturbation as an alternative. I am not an addict, just an occasional voyeur.

I wouldn't classify watching a few minutes of porn every day as a porn habit or even an addiction. Tons of people watch a lot more than that (me included) and have no problems. The issue is your feelings surrounding the fact that you watch porn.

And you're 17. How is this site not age appropriate for you?

That's kinda the point of porn... what is so great about being "pure"? And no post pubescent boy can control seminal discharge or sexual urges. Does that make all men "dirty"?

This site or porn sites? I mean, yeah i guess being a teenager it's a time of experimentation with drugs, alcohol and basically challenging every rule there is to be challenged set out by authorities. I learned this part while I was reading psychology books about it. Since both my cousins have studied in this field, I was like why not? and it's intriguing how i used to think that therapy is all about couches, therapists, and clients. So I checked out books on psychology. Boy, that sure changed some of my views a bit. Anyway, I'll digress.
But I don't go that far--just porn and masturbation. I have nothing to hide, honestly. I am so ready to come clean, and if i have told my therapist at school about this, do you think they might keep this private because in the future I don't want to be known or looked down by employers who think that my behavior is all bad and won't hire me. I fear for my reputation too.

wouldn't it be better if I didn't do both at the same time? But noo, I have to have both....

it's easy to masturbate without porn than it is to watch porn and not masturbate at all.

1. Porn without masturbation/orgasm is basically pointless, for anyone.

2. You know you've been saying you've been addicted for a long time, right?

3. Note the bit about the precious bodily fluids. This guy needs a psychiatrist too...

I also feel like because I have been given all the facts, like porn is normal for a teenager, that kind of motivates me to not want to control my behavior at all costs. It's basically setting myself up for an addiction.
If someone told me that it was wrong and that it had adverse effects even though it may be a lie, I will try to keep it in check

I have not seen the video, but there are religious people who will say masturbation is filthy and some will say it's okay. the liberals are more down-to-earth than the ones who say it's not. It's like their beliefs have been imprinted from early on and it just cannot be fixed.

Again, he seems to be applying psycho-educational interventions to a person whose degree of touch with reality has not yet been determined. I won't then call him a moron, but rather call him "a person who applies psycho-educational approaches in situations that call for more than psycho-educational approaches".

Since you do like him, though, it could be that his psycho-educational intervention MIGHT help you - so it is then on YOU tell HIM that you are a visual learner and have trouble with the audio part of his talks.

or die from embolism.

Its no-ones responsibility, nor their right to tell you if that is wrong or right. Its up to you, entirely.

From most of the worlds point of view, its perfectly fine.

I'm done talking in circles futilely. Go get a psychiatric consult, and stop being so ashamed and paranoid.

If you have something different to say.. post-treatment... I'll keep an eye out for it.

They have to keep it a secret. They legally are not allowed to talk about your problems unless they are life threatening. This is not. Plus, 99% of the population doesn't care about a 17 year old boy watching porn. Most guys (and girls) do that at 17.

And why would you watch porn without masturbation? The character development?

oh i'm not ashamed. I feel like now it's normal.

Can I answer this one sarcastically?

at times i'm not at my computer so yeah im elsewhere.