Unable to suckle

hamster-bamster · Jul 09, 2013, 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I am 34, so it's slim pickings for me.

There is no problem with your being 34, which is as good an age as any.

The problem is more with your not being employed etc., as many girls would want those things in their dating partners. Not all, though.

hamster-bamster · Jul 10, 2013, 02:45 AM

PS

sorry, I meant to say - the problem is in the combination of your age and unemployment.

20 year olds are not expected to be employed, but 34-year-olds are.

However if you say post an ad on a casual sex site rather than dating site, you can get away with being unemployed.

Phreak · Jul 10, 2013, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Yes she was my first, and she was a good one.

I am 34, so it's slim pickings for me.

was == past tense.

You're still young mate. My mother was well into her 40s before she found the guy she's now with more than 10 years later

Jul 10, 2013, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

PS

realistically, she is more likely to find somebody new sooner or later than Illegal Toilet is. So she is more likely to be the one to call it quits, sexually.

If she decides to end it sexually, then Illegal Toilet, on top of the sad fact that he is 34 and yet has only had one gf, and, on top of the sad fact that the first and so far only gf ended the relationship (whatever she meant by the word "relationship") on her initiative and against his wishes (IT wrote that she was a good one so he himself did not want to end it), will feel the pain of ultimate rejection. It would be the second rejection in a row - first she rejected him by opting out of having a relationship with him (and, stopping to react to being suckled on), and then, and finally, she would reject him sexually by opting out of having any kind of sex with him, however mechanical.

I am not sure he is really up to the challenge of suffering from the ultimate rejection at this point (sorry for analyzing, IT, but you come across as being pretty sensitive, and that need to suckle in a non-sexual way that you report, given that it free-associates with your being a baby, underscores that you are coming across as pretty sensitive; that you are not financially independent is another thing that free-associates with your being a child who depends on parents, which, again, makes you more sensitive than an average male in your age group).

So my recommendation, to avoid hurt feelings, is to engage a prostitute, masturbate, or do whatever it takes to stop seeing this particular woman, thereby heading off doom.

He can avoid hurt feelings easier by accepting that she's nothing more then just sex and look for someone else.

unaluna · Jul 11, 2013, 12:13 AM

Whoa hamster your analytical vanillical is showing!! Why not, as we used to say, if it feels good, do it!? Some guys like to "snuggle" afterwards, in the hankster's experience. ..

hamster-bamster · Jul 11, 2013, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by hankster

Whoa hamster your analytical vanillical is showing!! Why not, as we used to say, if it feels good, do it!?

If it feel good, then sure.

To repeat, it does not feel good to IT as far as I can tell - he titled the thread with "unable to suckle", and not with "enjoying being unable to suckle".

While Illegal Toilet did not expressly state "I suffer from being unable to suckle", I interpreted the omission to still signal that he was unhappy. So I suggested that he stop doing what does not satisfy him. That is all there is to my being analytical - if I see a person posting about being unable to suckle, I interpret it to mean that being able to suckle is important to the poster. Also, there were other threads by IT, earlier, that were dedicated to suckling, but even without the benefit of having read them, it would have been clear from this thread alone that IT cares about being able to suckle.

hamster-bamster · Jul 11, 2013, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by hankster

Whoa hamster your analytical vanillical is showing!! Why not, as we used to say, if it feels good, do it!? Some guys like to "snuggle" afterwards, in the hankster's experience. ..

sorry I misunderstood you.

when you said about something feeling good, you were in essence saying that there is very little meaning to the suckling part - it is just snuggling.

maybe

the thing is, it has some sort of a meaning in IT's woman's mind

this is because she allowed it at some point and even liked it

then she broke up with IT

then she partially changed her mind and said "It is OK to have sex, but we will not have a r/s." Whatever she meant (in her mind) by saying that this is not a r/s, it is clear that she downgraded IT. And, stopped responding positively to his suckling. So somehow suckling was part of the former relationship that had a higher status in her mind, but not part of the new, downgraded arrangement.

Since I do not think that she is just being randomly obnoxious, there must be some meaning to all of this in her mind. Maybe being suckled feels intimate to her ("snuggling" = intimacy) and now that she is not into having a r/s with IT, being suckled feels untrue to her. Or, something else. But not random.

Phreak · Jul 12, 2013, 05:33 PM

To take a vague guess the suckling and comforting was based on a parent child relationship where'd she'd provide maternal comforting and he was effectively nursing on her.

Now the mother/child component has ceased and now it's just straight sex without any other aspects being involved.

patches4.0 · Jul 19, 2013, 11:22 PM

Hi IT

I would break up with her, sounds to me like you are being used.

James

choocha · Sep 29, 2013, 09:38 AM

I would just naturally do it, and deal with it if an issue arises. Be honest with her that suckling is an important aspect of your being together (for you). I don't think you're asking too much. I would not be uncomfortable with it. I don't know if this helps. Good luck. Keep us posted as to your progress.

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