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#26
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There is no problem with your being 34, which is as good an age as any.
The problem is more with your not being employed etc., as many girls would want those things in their dating partners. Not all, though. |
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sorry, I meant to say - the problem is in the combination of your age and unemployment. 20 year olds are not expected to be employed, but 34-year-olds are. However if you say post an ad on a casual sex site rather than dating site, you can get away with being unemployed. |
#28
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You're still young mate. My mother was well into her 40s before she found the guy she's now with more than 10 years later |
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Whoa hamster your analytical vanillical is showing!! Why not, as we used to say, if it feels good, do it!? Some guys like to "snuggle" afterwards, in the hankster's experience. ..
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To repeat, it does not feel good to IT as far as I can tell - he titled the thread with "unable to suckle", and not with "enjoying being unable to suckle". While Illegal Toilet did not expressly state "I suffer from being unable to suckle", I interpreted the omission to still signal that he was unhappy. So I suggested that he stop doing what does not satisfy him. That is all there is to my being analytical - if I see a person posting about being unable to suckle, I interpret it to mean that being able to suckle is important to the poster. Also, there were other threads by IT, earlier, that were dedicated to suckling, but even without the benefit of having read them, it would have been clear from this thread alone that IT cares about being able to suckle. |
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when you said about something feeling good, you were in essence saying that there is very little meaning to the suckling part - it is just snuggling. maybe the thing is, it has some sort of a meaning in IT's woman's mind this is because she allowed it at some point and even liked it then she broke up with IT then she partially changed her mind and said "It is OK to have sex, but we will not have a r/s." Whatever she meant (in her mind) by saying that this is not a r/s, it is clear that she downgraded IT. And, stopped responding positively to his suckling. So somehow suckling was part of the former relationship that had a higher status in her mind, but not part of the new, downgraded arrangement. Since I do not think that she is just being randomly obnoxious, there must be some meaning to all of this in her mind. Maybe being suckled feels intimate to her ("snuggling" = intimacy) and now that she is not into having a r/s with IT, being suckled feels untrue to her. Or, something else. But not random. |
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To take a vague guess the suckling and comforting was based on a parent child relationship where'd she'd provide maternal comforting and he was effectively nursing on her.
Now the mother/child component has ceased and now it's just straight sex without any other aspects being involved. |
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Hi IT
I would break up with her, sounds to me like you are being used. James |
#35
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I would just naturally do it, and deal with it if an issue arises. Be honest with her that suckling is an important aspect of your being together (for you). I don't think you're asking too much. I would not be uncomfortable with it. I don't know if this helps. Good luck. Keep us posted as to your progress.
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