Not interested and withholding

I have been married for 18 months. Whilst my husband tells me he is in love with me he has developed Erectile dysfunction. He has medication for this yet doesn't take it as per prescribed (it is expensive and his last lot reached its expiration date without being used!!) He blames me for his problem. I am blonde,slim and attractive. I have to beg for sex and he calls this demanding. He has started to become abusive toward me. If I suggest sex, he ignores me completely, like I am not in the room. I feel I have been hood winked as this has been an issue for him for many years (since a young man) and for the first 3 months all was good for us. He is from an abusive back ground,and has agreed to have counselling, however, is yet to attend a session. I am depressed and lonely in a mining town , after giving up my life in a beautiful, picturesque village in order to be with my husband. I have been supportive and have offered all sorts of help and tried to be gentle and supportive but nothing I say or do is working. I am now silent about it and cry a lot.He refuses to get medication for herpes (I don't have it) is now overweight and watches tv most of the time. He has no drive (excuse the punn) and seems to have nothing but contempt for me. When we do have sex he is only interested in himself. He is silent, hardly touches me and I haven't had an orgasm for months. What to do??

Hi and welcome to PC. Your story is heartbreaking. It is obvious that your husband has no interest in you or your needs. Why would you want to stay with a man who has been given several chances to fix the problem but doesn't care enough of to do anything about it? I think there is more going on with him other than the on the surface problem, but he doesn't seem to want to work out. Personally, I would cut my losses and leave and finds someone who loved me.

As a man, I have no idea why someone would be like him.... I wish my wife wanted to be with me more... I agree with Gayle... move on.

I disagree. Your husband obviously has some issues and is probably terrified of being rejected by you due to his ED. Having said that, you need to make it clear to him that he has to pursue treatment for this problem. It's up to you what ultimatums to set for that.

Does your husband watch porn?