What does sexual intercourse help you with?

Jan 07, 2014, 03:41 AM

Someone who I won't identify recently suggested that sex is somewhat of a panacea for her.

So, what does intercourse cure for you? I'm probably expecting mostly mental health problems, but anything goes, really.

healingme4me · Jan 07, 2014, 06:46 AM

That is rhetorical, no?

It helps keep my monthly cycle regular, it is mood enhancing, well, really, can be a calorie burner....

Keeps a couple bonded...

That's helpful.

Think about the chemicals released in brain and body...I'd add links, but on my phone, replying..

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Webgoji · Jan 07, 2014, 07:19 AM

It cures any amount of self-esteem I might have salvaged during the day ...

gayleggg · Jan 07, 2014, 08:41 AM

In a loving relationship it brings a closenss that is hard to forget, even after the relationship has ended. It can even create a bond that can't be broken. (A true romanitic) It does release chemicals that make us feel good. It can also, degrade our self-esteem if given to carelessly.

Yoda · Jan 07, 2014, 09:10 AM

Sex helps menstrual cramps.

Angel of Bedlam · Jan 07, 2014, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Someone who I won't identify recently suggested that sex is somewhat of a panacea for her.

So, what does intercourse cure for you? I'm probably expecting mostly mental health problems, but anything goes, really.

It makes me feel even more in love with my boyfriend, it relaxes me, it helps my self-esteem, it helps alter my mood. A good orgasm can relieve a headache for me, it makes me more positive... there's a lot I could add but I'll stop there.

I should add that sex didn't start doing this stuff for me until I found the person I wanted to really be with (not the person that my BPD brain idolized). Sex used to be more of a necessity so I could feel valued, now it's an experience that helps me further value my relationship.

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Webgoji · Jan 07, 2014, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Webgoji

It cures any amount of self-esteem I might have salvaged during the day ...

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Originally Posted by gayleggg

In a loving relationship it brings a closenss that is hard to forget, even after the relationship has ended. It can even create a bond that can't be broken. (A true romanitic) It does release chemicals that make us feel good. It can also, degrade our self-esteem if given to carelessly.

You know, I was thinking about this and why it bothers me so much these days and I think I get it! Sorry to hijack the thread, but here's what I think has been bothering me when it comes to sex with Mrs. Webgoji:

1. As we've grown, her tastes sexually have changed as well. She wants me to be more rough with her. But given her physical state, I'm always concerned about hurting her (she's had shoulder surgery that still bothers her as well as a herniated disk and problems in her hips). Ergo, I go easy and then feel bad for not doing just what she wanted.

2. I'm often anorgasmic due to antidepressants and, frankly, there are other physical issues both with her and I that can lead to me not being able to have an orgasm. She then feels bad which, in turn, puts pressure on me to have an orgasm and makes the situation that much worse.

3. I'm a troll and have bad self-esteem issues anyway. I feel like she doesn't really even want to look at me anymore.

Now that I know what's been bothering me, I can work on it.

Angel of Bedlam · Jan 07, 2014, 03:05 PM

1. Things can change sexually in a relationship... in fact they should a little so that it keeps it interesting. Maybe instead of being rough, she just wants more domination from you, and you don't have to be rough to do that. Control what you do and when you do it. Tell her what you want her to do, tell her when to cum. Talk dirty. Those things all are dominant and feel aggressive without being rough.

2.I understand yout wife's feelings when you fail to reach orgasm, that would CRUSH my ego. This is nothing you can control, but maybe talking to your doc and asking what you can do to help. The pressure to orgasm can make you not orgasm, so talk to her about that and ask for her to be patient and understanding.

3. I feel this way about myself too! We are our own worst critic, right? If she is with you, she is for a reason. I doubt you're a troll.

Hang in there!

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Truth in Ruin · Jan 07, 2014, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Someone who I won't identify recently suggested that sex is somewhat of a panacea for her.

So, what does intercourse cure for you? I'm probably expecting mostly mental health problems, but anything goes, really.

"What does sexual intercourse help you with?"

I think it helps feed into my ego a little bit. When I have sex, it's a reminder of how large it really is, so it helps my self-esteem. Plus it helps keep everything healthier in the relationship as well.

justmemaybe · Jan 07, 2014, 06:53 PM

to me its not sex ....... its making love with the person i love......... so ahhhhhhhhhhh lol

unaluna · Jan 07, 2014, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by justmemaybe

to me its not sex ....... its making love with the person i love......... so ahhhhhhhhhhh lol

He asked about intercourse, not masturbation lol - per annie hall / woody allen

Truth in Ruin · Jan 07, 2014, 11:16 PM

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he asked about intercourse, not masturbation lol - per annie hall / woody allen

El. Oh. El!!!!

IzzyMeadows · Jan 08, 2014, 01:54 AM

Nothing :/ sex just isn't fun for me.

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Jan 08, 2014, 09:37 PM

Sex makes me feel close to my partner. She isn't very affectionate, so really the only time she holds me is when I am inside her.

danvb · Jan 10, 2014, 10:52 AM

I dunno... I guess I've never thought of sexual intercourse as having any strings attached to it. I mean, I don't expect to get anything out of it other than sharing an intimate connection with the woman I Love. If there are any ancillary benefits associated with it, they are completely unplanned, expected and are certainly of secondary importance.

Dan

Webgoji · Jan 10, 2014, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by danvb

I dunno... I guess I've never thought of sexual intercourse as having any strings attached to it. I mean, I don't expect to get anything out of it other than sharing an intimate connection with the woman I Love. If there are any ancillary benefits associated with it, they are completely unplanned, expected and are certainly of secondary importance.

Dan

That's it. Dan's kicked out of the club. He's got his act waaaay too together.