[hamster-bamster]

I have made some progress. No, I have not taught the guy how to give me manual orgasms. I have not even started! And I have no motivation. I just want him to just know, instinctively, as ex husbands did, especially ex H 2. Which is very unfair to him, to say the least. But at any rate, I was able to reach orgasm myself, while he held me firmly in his arms. Not from the first attempt - from the third attempt. But still, I was able to do it. A good orgasm. So I feel a little better now.

And the night before, I could not do it, neither from his attempts nor from mine, and he told me "It is OK, it is not an exam for which you must get an A." Which, I thought, was a very appropriate analogy.

So I think I will take it very-very easy now to decrease the level of anxiety, do not try to come from his hands at all, and just focus on masturbating while in his arms to reach some steady state of consistent orgasms in that position. Something is better than nothing. In fact, who cares how these orgasms are reached? Whatever works...

Does anyone do it on a regular basis - masturbating inside partner sex? If so, how - with the partner watching or holding you firmly?

[Harley47]

Well, virgin as virgin can get here, but I thought I'd chime in on the part I can help on.

Decreasing anxiety is, I think, a huge factor in helping. You can't be expected to perform well if you're nervous, be it a test or sex (though no...lol you don't have to get an A, or even necessarily pass 100% of the time. ). Try to relax...I know easier said than done, but that, I think, will prove a huge boon.

[hamster-bamster]

Thank you, Harley, you always have a wise thing to say. Your future girlfriend(s) will be ever so lucky!

[ickydog2006]

I think I've managed it once or twice with him there but I feel really awkward about it. Normally its hard for me to cum anyways so I rarely do it on my own.

[Big Mama]

It took me years to learn that it ok to touch yourself when you are w/ a man. It is not always his job. It does take two. Who knows better what you want then you. I had to show my H w/ my hand on his. I still do not like to get touch me while we are in t he middle of things. Toys help though. As for doing and being watched by my H. I can, I have , but I'd rather not. It's like I'm being watched by a hungry animal. I have developed performance anxiety also. This is all in the past tense because what sex used to be like is all but a memory. Between lost love and high dosages of meds. Just keep your pants on dude. I have no desire and could care less. I put out enough to keep the man from straying.

Sorry I got off subject a little there.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Big Mama

Sorry I got off subject a little there.

That is OK, you have a full plate...

[Big Mama]

Thanks Hamster. I hate it when I get off subject. I can't seem to stay on any subject long at the moment.

Are your meds doing better as far as the side affects and your sex life?

I find it is better when i am tired, and also easier. She masturbates me to sleep. I feel guilty because i haven't given her anything back, but really this is only when I am dead tired.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Big Mama

Thanks Hamster. I hate it when I get off subject. I can't seem to stay on any subject long at the moment.

Are your meds doing better as far as the side affects and your sex life?

Yes, I am completely off Geodon.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I find it is better when i am tired, and also easier. She masturbates me to sleep. I feel guilty because i haven't given her anything back, but really this is only when I am dead tired.

Dead tired excuses you. Enjoy and sweet dreams.

She lay on top of me the other day, back to my chest and I was able to masturbate her with my right hand and feel the rest of her body with my left. It was nice to repay the favour for her.

I didn't feel that she was uncomfortable at any stage, and why should she be?

[honeybee777]

OMG Toilet love it hahahahha

[Big Mama]

Illegal what a pleasent surprise that would be. What a lucky woman you have.

Thanks BM, We sleep in a single bed, so we're used to physical closeness.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Thanks BM, We sleep in a single bed, so we're used to physical closeness.

Oh that is so sweet.

[Big Mama]

good for you illigel. You have a bed and someone to share it w/.

[honeybee777]

So Illegal Toilet how is the gf? anymore awesome stories love to hear about your love life <3

[CantExplain]

When nothing else works, she strokes me while I masturbate.

[hamster-bamster]

I have come pretty far by now. He almost got me there himself, knowing what to do all by himself without my telling him anything. That lasted awhile but eventually I took over while being in his arms and had a couple of momentuous orgasms that duly impressed him. It was so great that I now have faith that eventually he will do it by himself.

[Big Mama]

good for you hamster. He did it . It paid off. What greater teacher then success. That is bound to give him encouragement.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Big Mama

good for you hamster. He did it . It paid off. What greater teacher then success. That is bound to give him encouragement.

80 percent his and mine just the finishing 20 percent. That is progress.

[sewerrats]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I find it is better when i am tired, and also easier. She masturbates me to sleep. I feel guilty because i haven't given her anything back, but really this is only when I am dead tired.

you not to tired to let her masterbate you,i think your being a little lazy hear.

[sewerrats]

my medication give me orgasm retention , i should be a porn star i can go all night without orgasm through intercouse, so when my wife has been satisfied, ie always make sure that, i will masterbate myself to orgasm with a little help from baby oil an a massage to the ball sack from my wife. what ever works for you do it.

Originally Posted by sewerrats

you not to tired to let her masterbate you,i think your being a little lazy hear.

Nope. I remember the start of this year being at a new job and I was too tired to do anything after work. She masturbated me to sleep knowing that I would not be able to reciprocate.

Also recently was masturbated by my partner while in her arms. I don't know if this is the right thread for that because i didn't masturbate myself, but i remembered this thread and thought i would post because it was very good.

[sewerrats]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Nope. I remember the start of this year being at a new job and I was too tired to do anything after work. She masturbated me to sleep knowing that I would not be able to reciprocate.

Also recently was masturbated by my partner while in her arms. I don't know if this is the right thread for that because i didn't masturbate myself, but i remembered this thread and thought i would post because it was very good.

If you were that tired why not let your partner sit on top and at least let her have fun you not forced to do anything fall to sleep if you like.