Severely sexually confused!

I tried to keep this as brief as possible while also including all relevant information.
Im male, 25.
Im not sexually attracted to genetic girls but can get emotionally attracted.
I can get sexually and emotionally attracted to trans girls.
I am sexually attracted to goodlooking feminine guys but not emotionally attracted.
Sometimes i think i would like to receive **** from an older guy but dont find them visually attractive.
My sexual partners have been 50% genetic girls and 50% trans girls.
I find relationships stressfull and difficult to manage. There has never been equal affection, always very one sided. But again about 50% me like her more and 50% she likes me more.
I suffer from delayed ejaculation and have never ejaculated from sex.
I masturbate nearly every day, up to three times is all i can manage. The third one can take up to an hour. I find it hard to go more than a few days without masturbating.
The main porn i masturbate to is trans girls and crossdressers. Also sometimes gay and chubby girls.
I prefer masturbation but sometimes like to receive **** from toys.
I would like to dress like a girl and receive **** from toys but only while on stimulant type drugs. I have done this before about 5 years ago.
I would like to try this with another crossdresser but only while on stimulants.
I think im trying to fit myself into a category but maybe i dont?
I wouldnt be able to tell anyone im not straight because my parents wouldnt accept me. So im thinking maybe im gay, but i dont want to be?
I also 'suffer' from depression, anxiety and aspergers.
I am looking for who i should be targeting for a sexual relatioship.

First, keep in mind that sexuality is very fluid. It's not black and white, but people fall all through a wide range from straight to gay. Some are just a little bi-curious, some fall on the ends of being very straight or gay and then there is a wide range in the middle.

Second, delayed ejaculation can be coming from 2 sources. Are you taking an antidepressant? SSRI or SSNRI medications can cause anorgasmia or delayed ejaculation. As well, masturbation can reduce your sensitivity because you can use more pressure than a woman can. So you might look at any medications as well as reducing the amount you masturbate.

Third, I think you should consider a therapist. You have some very specific likes and dislikes and sexual confusion and I think a longer talk with a therapist might help you work through this.

I have read on here that sexuality is fluid. How come the majority of people seem classified into a category?
I used to take ssris for three months at the start of 2011.
Thankyou for your advice. I will book a therapist.

Given that it was back in 2011 I doubt the SSRI's are the problem then. Usually any anorgasmia is over as soon as you stop taking them. So I'm leaning in the direction of masturbation. You don't have to stop completely, just back down. Also, I hadn't really thought about it, but stress might be playing into it as well, talking to the therapist might help with this, but you might be developing anxiety and that could be holding you back.

I think the reason the majority of people are classified into a category is just because of polls, lists and, to be honest, people not being completely honest. For example; I fall neatly into the straight category, no bisexual interests at all, but my wife, she's a little more complicated.

My wife likes to watch two women have sex and thinks it's hot. But she would never be interested in trying it herself. Incidentally, she doesn't like watching two men together.

So if we drew a line with gay on one end, bisexual in the middle and straight on the other end, I would be dead on the straight end, but my wife would be moved a little toward the bisexual middle ... but not very far. Our neighbor on the other hand would actually be a little moved from the bisexual toward the gay end, but not enough to be gay, just leaning a little more toward being a lesbian.

It's all very individual and not so neatly categorized as those polls and lists would make it seem. In my opinion, the key is to be comfortable with yourself. As you work through this, then fitting into any category won't matter, you're just you and that's good enough for anyone.

Target those you're into, and try to forget what your parents think. We can't choose who we're attracted to, it's who we are born to be with.

Relationships are complicated whether you're gay, straight, or bi. If your relationships haven't worked out in the past it may very well have nothing to do with the gender, but the compatiblity of the people involved and perhaps even their readiness to be in a relationship at that time.

Personally I'm pretty much into men. Even porn, I don't want straight couples, I'd want gay men (don't watch it because the husband doesn't agree and I wouldn't watch it alone), but I do have a draw to men who crossdress. I think it's less their look and more their boldness to be who they want to be in a generally unaccepting society. It probably also helps that I usually see them in Burlesque show so it comes off too. Me-ow!