bdsm

I don't really know where to start with this post. I'm having trouble staying aware when my partner and I are engaging in bdsm acts. I get to this place where nothing hurts, I'm spaced out, I hardly notice if I'm bleeding or if there are red marks. Nothing can get me out of this place, I'm wondering if it's triggers from my abusive past but honestly I don't see this as a bad thing, I'm not in a bad place when I space out. I don't really know what I'm asking, I guess I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this.

Firstly i think for the purpose of effectiveness, BDSM aspires to be safe sane and consensual. If your partner is regularly inflicting injury, i should think that behaviour falls outside the boundaries of common practice.

I'd also be concerned as to why you're willing to engage with something you don't state as being useful. You may not be able to work out an answer to this alone and so i wonder if a professional can help you decide whether your idea of BDSM is really appropriate? Good luck.

A spaced out sensation like your floating, probably on cloud nine?

It's what's referred to in the scene as sub-space

I don't have a direct experience but from what i have read, no, it is not subspace because your descriptions are so different from what others describe, and because you sound so neutral and detached. No "ahh subspace" but "whatever it is as if I were watching a movie and not participating and I do not care".

I do not know exactly what it is but it starts with the letter D. Derealization, dissociation, detaching from experience - one of those.

When a person is on cloud nine, she does not write dry, unemotional posts. Plus, I think one would know if one is floating on cloud nine by herself, without checking with others.

So maybe cloud four-five. But nine, no

I see a Parallel between getting spanked or whipped and Transcendental Meditation. Think about it. In TM a repetitive mantra sends you into blissful trance. Spankings and whippings are certainly repetitive. And believe me, when I am getting a whipping I'm not thinking about anything else. Maybe that 'place' your talking about is a sort of transcendent state.

Yes, i have experienced it many times and i find it very relaxing and calming. Usually a shock of say ice if you are under for too long will bring you out of it. Even sometimes a change in where your partner is hitting or a different toy will bring you out of it. i however usually get ticked off for being brought out of it because i like it there. It is like being in another place all together and a calming. When you come out of it you should feel at peace, groggy/sleepy if slowly brought out of it. i.e. a mild change in pace, but that depends on how deeply you are into it. Or if you were rudely brought out of it i.e. the ice trick.

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