[Notagooduser]

Hi!
So, I have this big doubt. I think I am bisexual or gay. I do normally look to boys and stuff but now,girls seem interesting too. And I'm kinda freaking out, I scared about these new feeling. Can anyone help me?

[glok]

Hello, Notagooduser. I can see how these thought can be scary.

I Think I Might Be Bisexual... - Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, and Ally Resource Center
How to Know if You Are Gay: 15 Steps (with Pictures) - wikiHow

I wish you well.

[bixkf]

I believe that you should be thankful that you are capable of being attracted to either gender. It allows you to truly love a person for who they are, rather than arbitrarily limiting yourself to 1/2 the human population because of what's between their legs.

Originally Posted by Notagooduser

Hi
So, I have this big doubt. I think I am bisexual or gay. I do normally look to boys and stuff but now,girls seem interesting too. And I'm kinda freaking out, I scared about these new feeling. Can anyone help me?

I'm sure this is scary for you, Notagooduser. But it's okay. I take it you are a young person in that you are a student. If so, perhaps you're just now beginning to explore your sexuality. It's not the least bit unusual, particularly for teenagers & young adults to question their sexual preferences. (In reality it's not that unusual for older folks too.)

And also, there's really nothing to be scared about anyway. There are many resting points along the spectrum of sexual orientation from male to female. Wherever you ultimately land, along that spectrum, is fine. The only real problem comes in if you're uncomfortable with where you see yourself heading. In that case, you may want to seek out the services of a therapist who can help you sort through your feelings.

So I would suggest that you simply relax, pay "interested attention" to your thoughts & feelings, & see how things develop. If you find yourself continuing to feel scared or otherwise concerned, seek out a therapist with whom you can discuss your feelings. And also keep posting here on PC. It can help! My best wishes to you!

[ifst5]

Being a different sexuality to the one you originally thought doesn't mean you'll morph into someone else - or that you now have something 'extra,' you're just...you I agree it's hard when there's different degrees of acceptance and ever changing social standings but A LOT of people are not straight. A lot. And generally attitudes are changing for the better. It may not be happening very fast and the world will never be idiot free but i guess i'm happier being bi now than i would if i was stuck say...20/30 years in the past. You're more than a sexuality or a load of stereotypes, we all are

[Myotherlife]

I have come to believe that no one is exclusively heterosexual or homosexual. I am certainly heterosexual for the most part, and have a good sexual relationship with my wife, but I also get turned on looking at male porn. I fantasize about having a sexual relationship with another male, and would like to try **** intercourse with a male, both as a top and a bottom. Trouble is, I've never actually met a man that interested me sexually! Could it happen? I think so. Sex is very important to me, and if the only potential partner I had was male, well, I'd probably enter a homosexual relationship.

To me, gender is more a matter of mind than biology. In the womb, early in gestation, males and females are virtually identical when it comes to body parts. That I'm male seems more a chance of nature than a plan. What's really important is not body parts, but emotional connection. If a man and a man, or a woman and woman, have that rare connection that leads to love of various type, so what? How does that harm either person, or anyone else for that matter?

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[Notagooduser]

Thanks guys, your advices actually helped me a lot. I'm still confused but I'm trying to live with that. I have time to discover what I want.
One more time, thanks.