mmm sex

LMAO!!! That's so funny. I keep my bunny in my lingerie drawer and sometimes it turns itself on. I think it's because this house is so old and sometimes the vibration of traffic going by makes the house shake. It has scared the crap out of me on a number of occasions.

I went into the staff room at my previous job one day and everyone in there was talking about how much they loved their Pocket Rockets. I thought WTF? We're a little open here, aren't we? This doesn't seem like appropriate professional conversation! I turns out there's a kitchen tool -- some sort of grinder/blender thing -- called a Pocket Rocket and there had been a sale on them at Costco and everyone had bought one. Appently, they're handy little gadgets.

lol when I was driving a truck I kept mine in my shower bag. well my dad went with me for a couple of weeks and I was getting ready to go into the truck stop for a shower. well I got my bag out and put it on the side of the truck and mine turned itself on lol. my dad was like what is that buzzing? I know I must have been red but I told him it was my battery operated toothbrush lol

I don't mean to suddenly sound like a prude but I don't think I will post in this one anymore. not with kids in here. just makes me too uncomfy.

you've got a point..........

i find it funny that people get squeemish about 'kids' being here when there are so very many sex related sites on the net... and when the only 'kid' who is here is someone who is already sexually activity.

i don't have a problem with sexual activity at 16 as that is the legal age of consent in NZ and there are a fair few who are sexually active at 14 or 15 (though i'll admit that thought makes me a little squeemish).

of course most kids (probably all kids) masterbate... and we are mostly talking about the use of masterbation aids. it its all 'normal' and 'healthy' then there shouldn't be a problem.

i'm personally of the opinion that it is good for kids to find out about sex honestly and in a forum where they can ask questions and the like. hopefully in a forum like this misinformation about birth control and myths (about the withdrawal method being effective contraception and %#@&#! intercourse not counting as sex) will be dispelled. probably better for them to seek information from here (where there are adults) than friends who might not be so well informed.

anyway...

i do see sex as a loving act. mostly. i also see sex as a recreational act sometimes. i don't see why acts of love between two strangers is so foreign to people. i've had some really very loving sex with a guy who i considered a good friend. we weren't having a realtionship. but it was a loving act.

i mean... how much is your bunny providing a loving act for you? i would have thought that would be less loving than an encounter with a stranger can be...

how much love are you providing ourselves WITH the bunny is what we're talking about. self-love exists. there are those of us use aids and those who don't........i think the subject has been exhausted and i'm beginning to become annoyed with the repetition of the "argument"..........i'm out of this thread for good. my good.......not the kids...........pat

i'm sorry you don't feel like participating in the discussion anymore.

i'm sorry (for me) that this thread got diverted from the original topic too. i was hoping to talk about that... but people did want to talk about their bunnies (despite my expressing my feelings on that and trying to bring the topic back around). i think that the set up of these forums are such that the original topic is often lost as the thread diverges. it is hard to direct responses to particular people and so it is hard to have a thread where there can be two lines of thought running concurrently. so the original topic got lost. but i don't begrudge people for wanting to talk about this.

i was responding mostly to those who didn't seem to think that you could have a loving sexual encounter with a stranger.

i was also responding mostly to those who seemed to think that sex was about love instead of recreation and so i guess i got to wondering whether it is that the bunny makes solo sex more recreationally satisfying (which is what i would have thought) or whether the bunny makes solo sex more loving. my point with that was that a little recreational sex is surely okay (so long as nobody is hurt because of it).

didn't mean to offend. i'm thinking... this board really doesn't seem to be the place for these kinds of upfront discussions on what people think. why? because instead of people celebrating their differences they seem to be more interested in defending the rightness of their view.

dunno...

what do i really mean to say here?

sigh.

i really hate it when people go 'off topic!' in response to peoples posts. i think it is nice that threads are able to evolve.

but there is something a little sad when the posters original issue (the reason they started the thread) is overlooked because of the way the thread evolved.

the thread was about my desire to have sex with an actual living person.

someone suggested getting a bunny and i said that i didn't want to do that for a variety of reasons.

and then people started posting about how wonderful bunnies are and so on and so forth at the expense of participating in the original topic.

or when they do post something about having sex with an actual living person who one is not in a long term relationship with they expressed disapproval.

so the thread isn't about supporting me or engaging in the topic at all.

it seems to have become about other people defending their views.

thats fine...

but maybe it would have been better for people to have started a thread of their own to talk about the virtues of bunnies. especially after i (as the thread starter) had made my feelings clear and had attempted to bring things around to the original topic.

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i miss it :-(

a love affair... thats what i need...

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I understand what YOU are talking about here, for I too am needing that and I am married (21 yrs on Friday) - now if I can only get my husband to want an affair too - lol.

I just miss the way he couldn't keep his hands off me or always had to see me every day or be on the phone with me - talking until the wee hours of the morning..... I sure do miss that old feeling that always said "YOU ARE THE WORLD TO ME" loud and clear and with every little word and action.
Mmmmmmmmm

Now, don't get me wrong he still says all that - just in a different 42 year old man way..... not as fun.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I don't feel you can have loving sex with a stranger. You can have gentle, friendly, caring sex, but it's not love. You can't love a person from the moment you meet them. You can respect them, care (in the sense you don't want to harm them or see them harmed), be nice to them, be kind to them, but love is an emotion that takes getting to know a person.

> I don't feel you can have loving sex with a stranger.

I guess it depends on how you define the word 'love'.

> You can have gentle, friendly, caring sex, but it's not love.

Sounds like loving sex to me. I'd settle for that. Don't care what you call it particularly.


Sorry peoples.

I agree with you, Alexandra. I believe that it's possible for some people to have loving sex with a stranger or an acquaintance they're not in a serious relationship with. It's something many of my friends do and they enjoy it and find it fulfilling.

I had sex with a friend once. I knew him very well and we had been close friends for a long time. I ended up regretting it, though, partly because he was in love with me and I didn't feel the same way about him. I also found that I didn't enjoy it as much as when I have had sex with someone I'm in love with. That's just me, though. That's the way I am. It's a very personal thing... we all experience sex in different ways and I think it fulfills different needs for different people. I need to be able to really relax and let myself go in order to really enjoy sex, and I'm not capable of being that open and relaxed with someone I'm not in love with, so casual sex has never been appealing to me.

"To each his own" is my philosophy. I'm all for people doing what they're comfortable with and works for them personally.

I have been browsing this thread but not posting in it, and I did see that conversation was flowing off direction, but I didn't say anything because conversations naturally ebb and flow, and I didn't see consternation as to the thread evolving naturally, or I would have steered it back on course if I had sensed that it was going too far off topic. For that I apologize. It is looking as though it is back on track here. We can always put a gentle reminder in threads that we start if we want it to get back on track.

I also wanted to mention that I always keep in mind our younger viewers in this forum, and while the conversation has been a bit descriptive, I didn't feel it was too descriptive for younger viewrs. We don't have "kids" here. We have teens and young adults.

I just wanted to post and make sure ya'll know that I am watching this forum, even if I don't post on it much. Thanks Alexandera_K for nudging your thread back in the right direction; always feel free to do so when you start a thread, or let me know. =)

(This was just a quick reply Julianna, hope you don't think I'm aiming my post at you. )

Thanks,
Rayna

Hi Rayna. I agree. I welcome reminders to get things back on topic. In fact, I often NEED reminders because I have a tendency to ramble. So, I'm always totally cool with someone making a reminder or saying YO, YOU'RE OFF TOPIC! LOL

It is okay, you don't have to apologise. I'm grateful that I got to post something myself rather than finding that someone else had stepped in on my behalf.

Well alot of younger viewers know most of those things everyone is talking about in here. But okay, won't post here anymore then. Sorry guys.

It is okay littlemissjess. You have as much of a right to be here as everyone else. I think some people just got a little bit freaked that teenagers would be reading here and when you said your age it got them a little bit freaked.

But that really is their issue. I mean ALL of these boards are viewable to anybody with internet access. In fact there are a lot of sites out there with far more detailed content (including pictures) and very inaccurate information that are viewable to anybody with internet access.

If you stop posting here... That still won't stop people reading if they choose to do so.

I guess my understanding (based on commonsense) is that you can talk about whatever so long as you aren't unnecessarily graphic. But then again, who knows, it surprises me rather how often other peoples commonsense views diverge from my own ;-)

But please don't stop posting because of others. They have a choice whether they read / post or not and I really don't see how their not posting is likely to affect who reads here. But of course to each their own.

No it's fine. I don't have to. I don't want people to feel weird or freaked out. I won't ruin the topic it's fine. Maybe my young mind doesn't need to read these things then. It's fine I understand, plus I feel really bad now. Plus I got off-topic when I talked about me wanting to become a psychologist. Grrrr. Sorry about that!

> I don't want people to feel weird or freaked out.

Whether you post or not doesn't change whether teenagers (or kids) are reading this board.

And its not like sex is dirty and nasty and that talk of it should be kept from children anyway - is it?

Its not in my book...

And for the record...

I'm glad that you asked about birth control and STD's. I hope that Maven and myself have been a little bit helpful...

I'd really rather you asked than not...

hrm.

why did '%#@&#!' get asterisked?

it is going to be hard to discuss sex if names for body parts get asterisked...

lol.

(seriously though there isn't anything nasty about that is there? is someone making a value judgement on what is wholesome and what isn't???)

it is not that I get freaked out about teens being here. it is the fact that there are many predators on the internet. I had my first child at 16. yes I am a little more old fashioned now and yes it is good that kids ask questions about birth control and std's. It is however the explicit stuff that I think about along with predators and maybe teens don't think about that so much. I know in the area I live in right now there have been many arrest in the last yr of professional men approaching teens online and even going to meet with the teens. that is what bothers me. I don't want any teens/kids hurt emotionally or physically. sorry off topic but wanted to explain my feelings.

I guess I'm still not sure what you mean. Is the concern that if I post about my desire to have a sexual encounter then you think I might get propositioned from off the internet... And that if there are teenagers who post along similar lines to me then you think they might get propositioned from off the internet?

I guess there isn't any harm in being propositioned... Though there may well be harm that results from a meeting.

I guess all the same caveats on meeting people IRL from off the internet apply. I don't really see how this board makes things any less safe than other boards.

Perhaps it is more that... It brings these issues more to the forefront of peoples minds. And that is what they find disturbing. Rather like when that guy posted here about having thoughts / urges to act on sexual feelings for minors even though he said he would rather die than actually act on them...

The problem is that people find it harder to ignore the fact that yeah, there are people out there (possibly even reading your posts) who do have these thoughts / feelings at times.

Whereas typically we can just put that possibility / actuality out of our minds...

While I'll agree some sexual topics are inappropriate for minors (especially very young minors), I don't see how we can have a board about sexuality if we can't talk about anything regarding sexuality, especially if we're dealing with it as a problem.

Jess is old enough to have dealt with sex, which she's already shared with us, so I think and hope these threads will be helpful to her. Plus, it's not as if she were 10 (although, if she were and was having sex, I definitely think she would need some truthful discussion and information). She's not that far from adulthood.

I feel that parents should monitor their children online (and no, not all of them do), so they should be making sure they're not hanging out on this forum, unless they're ok with it. I don't mind using medically appropriate terms, rather than explicit language, to discuss sexuality, but even some of those get censored (although it can be rather amusing ).

maven I agree with you on that. I do know of one youngster we have had in chat that was very young here. say younger than 13. yes I agree the teen that posted here has already had sex and that happens all the time these days so ok on that I guess.

alex I am strictly talking about predators. not propositioning. to me that is very different.