I'm really into my friend...

And we're both girls. Yeah I know, I shouldn't put much importance into this considering how much less traditional the world is compared to the past. Like yes, it's very common to see gay couples and such, but I somehow have it grounded in me that it's not.

My parents raised me under Catholic faith and this homosexuality is viewed with contempt. I personally am afflicted with whether or not these feelings are right.

The girl I like is a wonderful being. No she's not the kindest soul ever, but she's funny and makes me genuinely happy. She makes my bipolar and ADD seem like little parts of me that don't matter without even knowing she does that. Whenever she comes by me I feel overcome with emotions. A lot of butterflies and stuff. She's kinda slow when it comes to these things so she doesn't know that I like her.

I've talked to my therapist about it and he always brings up the question of why this is so wrong.. I don't even know why it is. I've come close to telling her on two occasions but I always chicken out...

Ugh I guess what I'm looking for is some advice from you all. How should I deal with this? Can I do something to make this seem less troublesome to me? Have you had a similar experience? If so, could you please share it?

Thanks so much to everyone for your time and please have a wonderful day!

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Hey, I somehow seemed to relate to your story. I'm a girl and have a crush on a girl too at the moment and I was also raised with religious views (in my case, Christian), and when I realized I had my first girl crush when I was 10, I got scared, knowing that it's wrong in the eyes of God, but it's not something I had control over, you know? I don't know if I should talk to a pastor because I'm okay by being accepted by society, but I'm scared of not being accepted by God. Maybe it's a phase since I don't see myself being married to a woman. I think you should tell your therapist or talk to someone you trust about your religious views since that seems to be the reason why you're not happy about your sexual orientation. I wish you the best, darling

I can kind of relate to this. I was raised Catholic as well, and although I am no longer religious, my parents and many of my relatives are as well. But personally, for me, I've never understood homophobia. I mean, love is love, right? That being said, it's taken me a long time to feel comfortable with my sexuality, and if I'm being honest, it's something I'm still working on today. Even though I consider myself an atheist, having so many Catholic relatives and having gone to Catholic school for thirteen years, it's sometimes difficult for me to separate the feelings of guilt I get.

I really do think your therapist has a point, and this is definitely something I would recommend continuing to work on with him. There really isn't anything wrong with being gay, or whatever your sexuality is. But an important part in the process is learning to accept yourself. Believe me, I understand why this is difficult, but I've found that just acknowledging my sexuality to myself really made me a lot happier.

Anyway, I thought I'd share some of my experience with you, in the hopes that you might find it helpful. My first serious relationship was with a guy, and I tried so hard to make it work. I thought that because I liked him as a friend, maybe I could somehow fall in love with him. But the longer we continued to go out, the unhappier I was. Eventually, sometime after we broke up, I came out to my parents. My dad was totally cool with it, but it took my mom quite a bit longer. I still haven't come out to my more conservative relatives, but I hope to someday.

I'm now dating a really awesome girl, and I have to say that I've been so much happier now that I've come a long way in accepting myself. I really hope that you'll get to that point too someday.

Thank you so much for your input! It does indeed seem as if it just takes a little bit of accepting to come to terms with it all. I may consider telling her about how I feel and seeing how that pans out.

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Thank you so much! I definitely will.

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I wasn't raised in a religious household, but have homophobic parents especially my mom. I always liked women since age 10, had a gf in 09 didn't last, and made this new friend now an ex friend whom I had strong feelings for and she tossed my feelings away for her longterm male friend.

I ended our friendship too secretive she never once talked to me about feeling jealous since I had a huge interest in her etc she lied and lead me on saying she was ovulating and lonely she realized her feelings after her ex bf broke up with her and jumped in bed with her male friend.

Hi sweetie,

I have never gone through this, but I'd like to give you my full support!

Go and be happy with whoever you love, as long as this person is not harmful to you, of course

I've watched very closely how hard it was for my stepsister to come out and assume herself as a lesbian to her family. Even her dad (my stepdad) who is quite a liberal guy had some trouble accepting it.
She had a very hard time with her mom who would not accept at all her daughter's choice. It was hard in the beginning, but 5 years later I can tell you she's much happier than before.

She does not need to hide herself from anyone. And that's so empowering.

It may hurt your family, but honestly: it's your life, and you deserve to be happy just like anyone else.

You will find the strength to stand up for yourself, I know that