i dont how to have sex?

i lost my virginity with a hoe that i didn't know she was.then felt like my life was a joke including sex. i was to addicted to her with sex.

now i don't know how to have sex or get girls.

during the time i had sex i wasn't passionate,persuasive etc NONE OF THAT. just ....nothing...

i wanted to ask what is normal sex? is it kinda like pornography? ive never had an total experience.

also which leads me to believe im might be a loser.

some advice will be great. thnks for your time.

i guess this post it to weird,,,

You're not a loser. You had a bad experience and that's all. (Although referring to her as a hoe isn't very becoming.)

I can't speak for everyone, but in my personal experience it's practically nothing like pornography. I mean, yeah, stuff goes in the same places, but pornography is all about camera angles and fantasy whereas sex for my wife and I is about that physical intimacy and closeness. It's about connecting emotionally and physically, feeling the ebb and flow of your partner's excitement and joining that wave, being part of it.

That's why to me, sex isn't "just sex". It's more about the emotionally intimate moment than just the physical act. Finding that someone who you feel very emotionally close to can make what people call "vanilla" sex very amazing.

I hope that makes sense.

Rule #1: Consent. Make sure they want it and that you want it. Anything other than an enthusiastic YES, means NO. If she's drunk, that's not consent.

Rule #2: Be safe. Use a condom. Google how to use it properly so it doesn't break. Get tested for STIs.

Rule #3: Communicate. Tell her you don't know how to make her feel good and ask her to show you what she likes. If she knows her body from previous experience or personal exploration (masturbation) then she will show you. If she doesn't know, then suggest trying something you think she might like and ask if she'll try it. Be prepared to stop and try something different if she doesn't like it. A lot of women are discouraged from masturbating because it's stigmatized, so encourage her to explore her body.

Same goes for you. If you don't know what you like being done with your body, experiment on your own or ask her to try something with you.

It's about communication. You have to talk about it with your partner, constantly, to make sure you're both comfortable.

Sex for people with vaginas shouldn't hurt, the hymen doesn't "break," if your partner is bleeding after then they weren't turned on enough and didn't have enough lubrication. Lube is your friend. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Kiss her, caress her, play with her breasts if she likes that. Talk to her. Use your fingers to touch her. It's totally cool if she has an orgasm before you start penis-in-vagina sex. In fact you'll both be happier that way, LOL. People with vaginas can have multiple orgasms. The more turned on she is, the more easily you can penetrate her without discomfort for her. Don't just dive in, go slow until you're both comfortable.

Most people with vaginas can't orgasm based on vaginal penetration alone. It takes clitoral stimulation. The clitoris is a little bundle of nerves and tissue that is above the vaginal opening (google for a diagram of the genetalia). It's full of nerve endings and you can think of it like a tiny penis. If you really want to make her happy, learn how to perform oral sex well. Use your tongue and fingers.

If you orgasm before your partner, sex isn't over. You can use your hands, mouth, a toy, whatever to make sure she has a satisfying experience.

Vaginas don't get stretched out based on how much sex someone has. It goes back to its original state.

Real bodies are not like porn. Vulvas (the exterior portion of the vagina) and labia (the "lips" of the vagina) look different on each person. Some are little, some are big, some are dangly. Some vaginas have hair. Pubic hair is not dirty. It keeps vaginas clean naturally.

Sex isn't like porn. It's messy and silly and sometimes you fall off the bed or trip on your pants or somebody farts. You need to be able to laugh with your partner.

If you're able to access porn you're able to google this stuff, my friend. Try Scarleteen. Best sex ed on the internet.

Communicate with your partner and encourage them to communicate with you.

Hmm. Not always.

Also...

You may not know this person, but that doesn't excuse using sexist slurs. As a previous poster said, it isn't becoming. Please, have a little respect for the person you slept with.

shes not technically a hoe but she cheated on me for a reason. it wasnt her fault.

thanks every one. hopefully i could find a partner. im just concerned how deep the rabbit goes in the hole. suspicious and actions.