Problems with ejaculation during intercourse

I'm sorry if this sounds weird. I'm a healthy guy at the age of 22 and I've been reasonably sexual active. I have an extremely difficult time when it comes to ejaculating during intercourse, it may be due to a condom but I doubt it. It usually takes at least 30 minutes, and by then my partner is already too sore to continue, where I then let her finish me off with a bj or a hj. I wasn't sure if this was a problem with excessive masturbation, some other health issue, or if I should see a therapist about this.

I don't have a history of any medical issues and I also don't take any drugs or drink. Any help regarding this issue would be great, since from what my partners have been telling me, lasting this long actually has not been pleasant for them and their inability to make me ejaculate had hurt their confidence.

Just wondering what you guys recommend, thanks ahead of time.

It could be several things actually.

1. If you're taking antidepressants or something like that, they can case delayed orgasm or anorgasmia entirely. I'm still recovering myself from that problem.

2. Performance anxiety can also cause delayed ejaculation because your subconsciously holding back. (This is what I have now.) You probably won't notice it unless you get really close to feeling how your body is reacting.

3. Masturbation can cause delayed ejaculation. I read that it can be good for the prostate, but too much and you can desensitize yourself making it harder to reach orgasm.

Personally I would suggest first talking to your regular doctor and if they find everything physically fine then consider talking to a therapist. Could be any number of things, but there's a solution for all of them.

Your situation is not that uncommon. Some might even view it as a positive compared to premature ejaculation (PE). In my young life (I'm only 45) I've gone from being overly sensitive and having PE, to losing almost all feeling in my penis and having anorgasmia.

My main advice to you is to see a doctor before waiting too long. There are many reasons for issues like this: nerve damage, diabetes, overweight, arousal levels, low testosterone, etc. Some of them are preventable, reversible and/or treatable...meaning a visit to the doctor could set you right in bed.

Heh, I'd give my right leg to have PE. That I could work with, there's some great work-arounds in my opinion.

DE or anorgasmia by itself isn't much of an issue, but it sure can make your partner feel like they "aren't good enough" and then you've got a whole host of other problems.

To OP,

Are you circumcised or not? I've heard that a foreskin can sometimes hamper sensitivity.

Of course, the grass is always greener...

I'd give my left leg for a little anorgasmia. Finishing in 2 minutes and leaving your partner needing more doesn't do wonders for your own self-confidence either. Sure it can be taken care of in other ways but having to do that all the time leaves you feeling less that virile and always wondering what your partner is REALLY thinking about your abilities.

Yeah, I got to agree with bighands. Be glad you don't have PE. And 30 minutes doesn't sound long at all.

Maybe you guys should lube up a bit, it sounds like she might be a little dry perhaps.