BDSM/Fetish Lite

I get that - sounds pretty normal to me! This is going to be a pretty out there suggestion - but my experience of this was really positive....

Have you considered getting a job in a club that caters to BDSM nights / parties? I accidentally found myself in that position, when the small nightclub I was a bar wench in started hosting private BDSM nights once a month. At first I was pretty shocked at some of the stuff I saw. The clientele were extremely protective over the bar staff (there was only me and the manager). They were grateful to us for hosting, and for being open minded and non judgemental, and there were very strict boundaries as they made the assumption we were also vanilla. We did not request the boundaries - the clientele initiated and implemented them automatically.They were so protective over us!

Being behind the bar offered distance. It was a safe environment. Nothing was expected of me, and if I got turned on it was a bonus, rather than an expectation. The same people came month after month after month. Friendships developed naturally, conversations were had. Within six months I had discovered which people thought like me, which people I had a connection to, and inevitably - which friends I could play with in a more private environment.