Female ejaculation/squirting; its effect on relationships

I was wondering if any ladies here 'squirt' and how it effects your relationship in the bedroom, because for me it brings anxiety. I am reluctant to orgasm because I know it will happen. Most of the contents in this liquid, besides female prostate gland fluid, is urine. Some women say its not, but definitive scientific research has shown that it is. It just contains female prostate fluid, which regular urine does not... And some other things. Its like urines cousin, okay?.. Lets put that way. Because of the fact that it comes from the urethra and is liquidy like urine... I am reluctant to orgasm and always worry about it during sex. My fiance says he is fine with it but that doesnt help. It puts a strain on our sex life.
Most of the time I can't even come anymore at all. Women I've tried to talk about it with in person just say they cannot help because they don't do it.

Thoughts? Experiences? Advice?

Hi,

I have ejaculated this way all my life. It was considered very odd when I was younger but it never bothered me or any man I've had. If your partner is happy enough then please try and put your fears away. Enjoy the process, read up on it, watch a video of the act. I hope this will give you more confidence and allow you to enjoy sex again.

Do you masturbate alone and come to orgasm? How do you feel about your ejaculate at those times?

Yeah, I squirt sometimes. My opinion is that one should always place something down, warn your partner, and buy some lube. Why the lube? Because squirting during penetration makes it difficult to continue intercourse, and it is painful.

I have never been shamed or put down for my ejaculation, and during conversations with male friends, some think it is just pure urine. Yet, I know before being intimate, I will use the restroom and clean up, so I know it is not my bladder freaking out. And well, I saw a physician about it and they said it was natural.

Even masturbation will cause me to squirt like crazy, and it is an awful feeling shuffling around all my sheets (and cover) to the laundry room, and people asking me what happened. I should mention that I am shy about my masturbation habits when friends talk about it, but i do support it, and I think the health benefits outweigh the embarrassment or shame from moral standpoints. My own mother (a woman raised in the deep south) tried that (shame and embarrass) with me when she found out about the one of the most important discoveries of my life (at age 15), saying a man should pleasure you — not your hand. Pfft! Please.

My reaction?



Anyways, be prepared and be open about it. Oh, and urinate before and after sex for both health reasons plus you make less of a mess for some reason.

Side note: MY mother is the reason why I am shy and modest when in social groups about my sexual nature. Her viewpoint and mine are mixed, but she jokes about it occasionally.

Yeah... There's a lot of definitive reseach on squirting and how it occurs through sexual stimulation, up to climax. I will save explaining the reseach because it's part of the reason I've become uncomfortable about the whole thing.

I really hope I can just get over this, it was never a problem before and i dont really know what changed that.. reading up on it is part of it.. Idk. I dont feel so bad about squirting when I am alone (masturbating) but I amlost just cant anymore with my fiance.

Thank you prism bunny and kipper for all your advice.. Sorry people shamed you about sexuality prism, And your mom. Ive always avoided sex talk with my mom completely. She would faint. I will talk to my fiance about this when he gets home though.. Thanks

Right. I did my own research on the female ejaculation over the years when it became such a problem during sex. I am sorry that you feel dread and shame when you climax through masturbation, which happens for a multitude of reasons. But if you think this can be resolved by seeing a physician that specializes in urology/women's health, then go for it.

And yeah, my mother was the one who brought it up (masturbation) one day when I was a teen because she suspected that I would start around that time. I feel uncomfortable when she randomly talks about it because, well, she is family (and I disagree with her).

When you talk to your fiancee, let him love you. It does not need to lead to anything sexual, but just let him care for you. This is a sensitive subject, and you both need to bond over it. Be gentle with yourself, Finniky.

I am reluctant to orgasm because I know it will happen. Most of the contents in this liquid, besides female prostate gland fluid, is urine. Some women say its not, but definitive scientific research has shown that it is.Tadalafil tablets 20mg . I really hope I can just get over this, it was never a problem before and i dont really know what changed that.reading up on it is part of it. Idk. I dont feel so bad about squirting when I am alone (masturbating) but I amlost just cant anymore with my fiance.

I've always had clitoris type orgasms. As I've aged I've experienced several types of different orgasms which has made the sex an even deeper experience.
When I experienced squirting a few yrs ago I was extremely embarrassed thinking it was my weak bladder.
But yes there is research that says it is a different type of liquid & when I squirt it leads to a totally different type of release which I'm so happy to now experience! I'm still a bit embarrassed but have learned to put down a waterproof mattress pad & blanket.
My partner is also very pleased to know I've had such an amazing experience & welcomes the "mess". He says he himself can get messy too!
I hope you can enjoy the experience soon.

Right. I did my own research on the female ejaculation over the years when it became such a problem during sex. I am sorry that you feel dread and shame when you climax through masturbation, which happens for a multitude of reasons. But if you think this can be resolved by seeing a physician that specializes in urology/women's health, then go for it. Tadalafil tablets 20mg. hank you prism bunny and kipper for all your advice. Sorry people shamed you about sexuality prism, And your mom. Ive always avoided sex talk with my mom completely. She would faint. I will talk to my fiance about this when he gets home though.. Thanks

We talked about it.. My fiance and I. No progress in making me any happier about it yet. I guess... there are other problems in our sex life that are contributing as well.

I think your partner will take it as a compliment. It is good for his ego if you squirt, it means he is servicing you properly.

I just wanted to add a mans perspective here. I may be only speaking for me, but I take it as a direct compliment if a woman "squirts". It could even be pee for all I care (yes, I do know the technical explanation of it). All I see however in it is my womans sexual satisfaction and there is nothing more rewarding for a man. Just take some extra precautions with the furniture before hand and enjoy (and realize there are many men who would be envious of your husband . boyfriend :-) )

I wanted to thank everyone that responded and to say that last night I was able to enjoy sex with much less worry and go through with the entirety of of climax, waterfall and all, with my partner.. With pretty much no anxiety. We put a towel down. It was white and the towel was not stained or anything. I feel so much better. Thank you ladies.. And gentlemen who commented.

I am so pleased to hear it went well. Maybe later, when you are ready, we could help with any other issues you share. x