B.J.'s

I say eww to giving oral, as I tried it for the first time last night with a guy and yea ewww. I felt bad a little cause I couldn't do it but it made me gag... This may be an odd question but does anyone have a suggestion for me about as to whether there is something that would help me with that? Like I love giving pleasure so maybe that's why it's kind of important to me. Thanks.

I have TMJ, its a jaw disorder. So bj's were always very painful for me. In my last relationship, we were playing with ice.....I ended up doing it with the ice in the my mouth and he loved it, and it numbed my jaw. I also wanted to learn how to do it properly, so I searched on ivillage.com (no joke) "how to give a good bj". I never liked doing it, but did because he liked it. The gagging thing......it's really hard to work around. Only "take in" what you can....if that makes sense.

On another note......you say you tried for the first time last with "a guy". Is this guy your boyfriend? Just be careful, and thats all I'll say on that.

i guess i either have a very small mouth or my bf is well endowed...i think it could be both but most guys want to be able to touch the end ..i guess it feels good to know you can reach that far AND the feeling i guess feels good to...but i gag alot too...im getting better but sometimes he still gets...fiesty...so what i do is i curl my tongue to the roof of my mouth and he ends up hitting the bottom of my tongue gets the pleasure and i dont gag...plus sometimes i use the inside of my cheek at times for the same effect...

also concentrate on other "areas" ...if you dont want to give a full bj how about tickling and exactly using your whole mouth just light biting ...and stuff like that...sorry if its too graphic..i dont know how else to put it.....good luck...also use some yummy products that youd want to eat lol...like a good tasting frosting..or whipped cream, hot fudge, melted chocolate...not only does it taste good...but he will definitly like it
or if you just dont like it and dont want to give it..then just say so ...if the guy is close to you and actually cares (which i hope he would) then he should understand and not force you to do something you dont wont to do...
good luck
love,
inny

do you give the B.J.'s at or after school gets out? play somewhere else........pat

The main key is learning to relax your throat. I have a very strong gag reflex, and haven't quite mastered that, though. A shrink I saw once said, as far as the taste of the semen, if that bothers you (it does me), is to make sure the head of the penis is at the back of your throat when he shoots, and swallow as it hits the back of your throat, rather than your tongue. I never got a chance to try it, since we haven't had sex in eight years, but maybe it'll help you.

I had the same problem. The idea of B.J's made me want to gag.
I think my biggest issue was worrying about whether or not I was doing it right.
I agree with InACorner. Never under estimate the power of tickling, licking, and nibbling.
I find to that I can only really do it if it's with someone I'm totally comfortable with, and I see B.J's as the ultimate act of intimacy.
Not only that, if your worried about then liking it.....lets face it, you could put a guys **** in a glass of water and they'd enjoy it. LOL
Good luck.........and if you're gonna play, play safe!!!!!!!

I can't do this at all - too many triggers. Seems odd that a shrink would give this kind of advice - not that he shouldn't but it seems weird to me?

just take it very slowly and if u cant get it all in just hold onto the bottom of his penis
only go at a pace ur comfy with u will get use to it and he should understand if he is rude about it just tell him u will bite it off if he doesnt go gently!
lol

O Man that was great lol. if he is rude about it just tell him u will bite it off if he doesnt go gently! Hahaha... I love comedy mixed in eventhough it's kinda serious too! Thanks that made me feel better

ur welcome