[sillygirl]

Im at a loss as to what is wrong with me, ive been cleared of any medical issue, and also its been determined that it is not an issue of me not being relaxed. I have a lot of pain with deep penetration. it is really messing up my life. does anyone else have this problem? Or suggestions for anything that may or has helped?

[Maven]

YES!!! I've had pain since my first time (besides the broken hymen thing). I've had several diagnoses--yeast infections (but the pain continued even after the infections were cleared up), being too tiny (but I've also been told I was normal), being deformed, needing to be stretched (even though I had sex for six years--admittedly, not on a regular basis--before stopping altogether, because my bf is not interested...but that's another story), etc. I still don't know.

I hope you have better luck than me finding out, but you might try additional lubrication, for starters.

May I ask how long you've had the problem? Have you been a non-virgin for long, and have you had regular sexual intercourse, pretty much?

You might consider seeing another gynecologist for a second opinion. If you continue having problems solving your issue, you might consider finding a reasonably priced copy of A Woman's Guide to Overcoming Sexual Fear & Pain.

Oh, yeah, and one more thing I might suggest: I've found, although I still have some pain, if I use a vibrator (with the vibrations turned on) inside of me, there's a lot less pain than with the vibes turned off.

[tranquility]

Hi sillygirl - I'm wondering how it as determined that you were relaxed? It sounds like that could be the issue - maybe not consciously?

Tranquility

Maybe changing positions would help...can't tell from post if perhaps your uterous is being bumped to hard..

[sillygirl]

im so glad to know you know what Im talking about! I feel so alone. Ive had the problem from as long as i can remember, sometimes it isn't all that bad, but majority of the time its a major problem. Ive been a non virgin for 10 or so years. Ive had regular intercourse for a time and then I started avoiding all together. Thanks for the tips.

[sillygirl]

I think they determined it when there was no problem at insertion but with deeper pressure. I have gone to 2 gyns and both have suggested anxiety initially but after examination they both started throwing out "disorders", like endometriosis etc. but then I eventually get cleared of any medical problem. Its very frustrating.

[sillygirl]

yes that has helped at times. Im not sure why?

[Irine]

let me understand..i SHOULDN`T hurt?

well...i had it a few times in my life and it hurt like hell and i cried....

[Rhapsody]

I think it really depends on each individual person and their body...... I for one have a tilted uterus now and it hurts from time to time.

[bebop]

any small kind of infection can also cause pain during intercourse. and no you should not hurt.
pain can also come from not being properly lubricated. that is a MUST! otherwise I don't think anything is more painful!

[Maven]

Right. If you have pain, there's a problem.

[Rhapsody]

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Per my GP - in most cases this is true, but in some cases its merely due to how the females body is made / positioned down there.

One should always have this checked out to make sure which one it is.

[Maven]

I disagree with that. If you have pain, there is something wrong. It may be your shape, but you should be able to find ways to have sex without pain. Sex is something you should be able to enjoy.

[Rhapsody]

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I disagree with that. If you have pain, there is something wrong....

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It is not my opinion, but rather that of my GP - she is an Internal Medicine Doctor / GYN.

I have pain and there is nothing wrong with me medically...... it is just a physical issue with my uterus being tilted now - after giving birth to three kids and with age.

Nothing wrong - just nature taking it course.

[Raynaadi]

I have a little pain upon entry because bf is large....but its only for a second.

[Juliana]

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I disagree with that. If you have pain, there is something wrong....

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It is not my opinion, but rather that of my GP - she is an Internal Medicine Doctor / GYN.

I have pain and there is nothing wrong with me medically...... it is just a physical issue with my uterus being tilted now - after giving birth to three kids and with age.

Nothing wrong - just nature taking it course.

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My mum has the same issue... tilted uterus that can make sex painful. I have endometriosis and sex is painful sometimes when the endo is flaring up.

[Maven]

As I said, if there's pain, there's a problem. If your uterus is tilted, or there's some other cause, it may be "natural," but it's still a problem. Often, there's treatment.

[Rhapsody]

YES.... I understand what you are saying, but to us I guess we don't put that in the category of a "problem" since that is a common issue with ladies as they age and have kids - I would see an infection, a slipped IUD or tumor on the cervix as a medical problem and not that of a tilted uterus since it is merely nature taking its course.

In most cases a tilted uterus is left uncorrected - surgery is not performed unless the uterus falls and starts to exit the womb.

[Maven]

Ok, we just disagree on the terminology, but I think we agree, in general.