Ending celibacy

So I've been celibate- and happily so- for fourteen years. But recently my hormones appear to have- well, there's been an exponential increase in them I guess!!! I *so* need to get laid, but I've been out the game so long I've no idea how to go about it! Internet dating really doesn't appeal at all. So how do I go about finding a hookup in real life these days?

www.Craigslist.org go to Personals and then Casual Encounters or www.AdultFriendFinder.com. Good luck and play safe!

LOL I just clicked on the Craiglist / casual encounters link. Holy cow theres not a lot left to the imagination I think I must be easily shocked!

I *really* can't do the online thing. Does no-one just go to a pub these days?! When I said real life, I meant - like, meeting people in real life without having to do the online thing first!

Ohhhh, I thought that you meant that you didn't want to do Internet DATING and wanted to go straight to casual sex. Sure, you can try meeting a guy at a bar, the old fashioned way. Other ways would be to join different social groups like www.meetup.com or to take some Adult Ed classes where you can meet people with similar interests. If you have a good social circle of friends, tell everyone that you're single and ask if they know a nice guy who is looking to meet someone. Good luck!

I've been celibate for many years too. I too sometimes want more than I can give myself. I am in no mental shape to date, or anything like that. I feel like the whole scene is a minefield of intimidation, rejection, hurt feelings, std's, etc. Maybe one of these years I'll actually be boyfriend material again, and can have a healthy relationship. Hope everything still works at that point, lol.

I've got cobwebs up there And quite frankly, a girl has needs! I havent had the urge for decades and I kinda want to make the most of it now I do!

Im nearly 40 and bored of waiting.

Yay for fellow celibates! Sorry you're feeling so low at the moment though. My biggest issue is intolerance I think. I've lived on my own for 20 years. Im really not great at sharing my space. I love the idea of being married to someone who lives next door or something. Where I can still have my own space, with the benefits of a husband when I want it and solace when I need it. Im well aware how selfish that is, but I've just never met anyone who has made me feel otherwise. My privacy and alone time is important to me, but if I get that, I would be the most giving gf the times that I am with someone. The guys I meet tend to be druggies or limpits though - not what Im in to!

Lol, that's what I say. She needs a good dust. But I'm doing the opposite, staying celibate. Sex is for normal people and I'm not normal. I don't enjoy it so it is so much easier to avoid it completely.

I would never have online dated, you don't know a person until you've met them face to face. Better to meet up with people in your area. That is a real relationship. Online dating isn't safe either.

Good luck.

Hormones even crazier than yours at an additional 10 years...Celibate marriage for the past 14 years........(same sex, but am bi, now really wanting a male lover...). Life is complex. Especially at the menopause...Good luck - and stay safe.