[YOLO Lady]

Wondering what you all NEED in order to have an orgasm either when you're alone or with a partner? For instance, when I'm masturbating I need the following:

an empty bladder
to not be thirsty (I know, weird but true!)
to be very comfortable
to hear sexy talk even if I have to do the talking myself

If I'm with a guy, I need all of the above plus:
to be freshly showered and feel clean
for him to be gentle
oral and for him to act like he's enjoying it
no pressure to have an orgasm

If any of these things aren't present, it's just not going to happen. Also, I never realized how high maintenance I am....

Some days, it's just not going to happen; other days, I am so turned on that a random thought can make me have a spontaneous orgasm; and I can be anywhere between these two extremes on any given day. I don't question why, just assume that the stars have to be aligned correctly or something. And what I like this week may be different next week. I have been diagnosed with a mood disorder--perhaps it all has to do with my moods and not the stars. I like to think that sexual excitement has a mystical sort of quality that feels best when we enjoy it as it comes. I am truly grateful for the weeks where I am having a lot of orgasms--don't they feel great!

[LadyShadow]

You know when I am alone it's usually porn, as disgusting as that sounds. I don't know why, I just can't climax without it. Even when engaged with a guy (online) I need the distraction of porn to come even close to orgasm.

Since I have no husband or boyfriend it has become sort of a "chore" for me. Just get it done, get the release. I guess I enjoy it, or I wouldn't do it right?

[bighands]

Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. Sooooooo trully different! Haha.

What do I need to climax? I need the following 10 things!

1. Access to my penis.
2. See number 1
3. See number 1
4. See number 1
5. See number 1
6. See number 1
7. See number 1
8. See number 1
9. See number 1
10. See number 1

[LifeInProgress]

A LOT of effort.

[TishaBuv]

Stimulation in the right place and I NEED to go to my fantasy place outside of myself. I don't know why. I feel pretty weird about it, but I hope it's not all that uncommon.

Porn related to my kinks. I don't have a partner, but I have various toys that I use as well that definitely help.

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by bighands

Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. Sooooooo trully different! Haha.

What do I need to climax? I need the following 10 things!

1. Access to my penis.
2. See number 1
3. See number 1
4. See number 1
5. See number 1
6. See number 1
7. See number 1
8. See number 1
9. See number 1
10. See number 1

Ha! Typical. That's the way it is for you guys I suppose!

[Ocean Swimmer]

A fantasy and stimulation.

[Virneto]

[If with my girlfriend] I need to feel her touch and have the perception that she is enjoying..
[If alone] I need to concentrate on my touch and go back to my head.. Get absorbed in my thoughts and bring back my girlfriend or some fantasy.. Sometimes I also do it watching videos... I don't like porn but really enjoy home made videos with "normal" people enjoying themselves..

ps.: @ YOLO_Lady, Great Post!!

pps.: May y'all have a wonderful time this Christmas!

No idea. I've never had an orgasm. I tried masturbating twice (my sister recommended it, saying it's enjoyable and feels good) but I didn't like it so I don't.

Originally Posted by Breadfish

No idea. I've never had an orgasm. I tried masturbating twice (my sister recommended it, saying it's enjoyable and feels good) but I didn't like it so I don't.

Get a vibrator. I didn't see much results from regular Masterbation but with my first vibrator -- Yowza.

General, can't be too cold or hot, must be comfortable where I and doing the act.

If with a man he must look interested. You know that look. Like he would do anything to have me.

With me: Vibrator.

[YOLO Lady]

Originally Posted by Breadfish

No idea. I've never had an orgasm. I tried masturbating twice (my sister recommended it, saying it's enjoyable and feels good) but I didn't like it so I don't.

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That's too bad...hope that you figure out what feels good because once you do, you'll want to do it all of the time!

[YOLO Lady]

Originally Posted by Hopingtrying

Some days, it's just not going to happen; other days, I am so turned on that a random thought can make me have a spontaneous orgasm; and I can be anywhere between these two extremes on any given day. I don't question why, just assume that the stars have to be aligned correctly or something. And what I like this week may be different next week. I have been diagnosed with a mood disorder--perhaps it all has to do with my moods and not the stars. I like to think that sexual excitement has a mystical sort of quality that feels best when we enjoy it as it comes. I am truly grateful for the weeks where I am having a lot of orgasms--don't they feel great!

My ex was determined to make me cum sometimes even though when I knew that it was just not going to happen! So frustrating. I'd love to have a spontaneous orgasm, now that would be cool!

[YOLO Lady]

Originally Posted by LadyShadow

You know when I am alone it's usually porn, as disgusting as that sounds. I don't know why, I just can't climax without it. Even when engaged with a guy (online) I need the distraction of porn to come even close to orgasm.

Since I have no husband or boyfriend it has become sort of a "chore" for me. Just get it done, get the release. I guess I enjoy it, or I wouldn't do it right?

I don't think that porn is disgusting at all as long as the people in it are enjoying themselves. If I see something where the people seem like they're being forced or are completely drugged up and oblivious to what's going on, I close out of it immediately!

[YOLO Lady]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Stimulation in the right place and I NEED to go to my fantasy place outside of myself. I don't why. I feel pretty weird about it, but I hope it's not all that uncommon.

I'm sure that you're normal, but wondering if you could elaborate? What do you mean to go to your fantasy place OUTSIDE of yourself?

Originally Posted by YOLO Lady

My ex was determined to make me cum sometimes even though when I knew that it was just not going to happen! So frustrating. I'd love to have a spontaneous orgasm, now that would be cool!

For me, 90 percent of the spontaneous orgasms occur when the sex was especially good the night before and I sort of randomly "flashback" unintentionally the next day and I get to have that great feeling all over again. I tell my H that I'm thinking about the great sex we had yesterday (for some reason I have never told him that I am not just mentally reliving it-- and every once in a while it gives me a "jolt" that is a bit to powerful to enjoy, they'll feel "out of control"---it's totally weird and once again, I feel like I am a bit "crazy"). But if it happens because I'm thinking about someone else, I feel guilty and like I need to hide it from him!! So sometimes it is totally cool, other times not.

Originally Posted by Emily Fox Seaton

Get a vibrator. I didn't see much results from regular Masterbation but with my first vibrator -- Yowza.

General, can't be too cold or hot, must be comfortable where I and doing the act.

If with a man he must look interested. You know that look. Like he would do anything to have me.

With me: Vibrator.

Thanks for your suggestion, but I don't thin I will do as you say. If you don't have an itch, you don't need to scratch. Maybe that will change in the future.

Originally Posted by Breadfish

Thanks for your suggestion, but I don't thin I will do as you say. If you don't have an itch, you don't need to scratch. Maybe that will change in the future.

Yeh, I admit, until I got the vibrator I didn't have an itch and now I have an obsession.

But there are some health benefits of an organism. If you are worried about getting a vibrator or sex toy they are easily available on amazon and they come in plain packages.