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Old Jul 02, 2017, 05:26 PM
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I'm going to talk to my therapist. I felt feelings like these ever since I was a kid. I just have two more questions. Do Sadists like to inflict pain on everyone or just people that they find attractive? For me, its the latter. Also, do Sadists still feel content just watching them feel pain (even if they're not the ones causing it)?

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Old Jul 02, 2017, 06:41 PM
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The thing is, I've never hurt anyone before and I've never had sex before. I'm only a teenager. However, the reason I think I'm a sadist is because whenever I see someone attractive get harmed or killed (in movies and tv shows) I feel "pleasure". This has really worried me. What if I lose control and actually harm? I hope the therapist (who specializes in teens) can help me.
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Old Jul 03, 2017, 06:23 PM
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I think that what you feel emotionally from a movie, show, porn etc may excite you yes, but actually doing it, irl, can be extremely different.
Now some will say it's even better irl! But you just don't know that yet. And there's certainly no rush to find out.
But it's very smart of you to be aware of this part that you have. Maybe get to know it & handle it.
I hope the T helps.
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Old Jul 03, 2017, 08:27 PM
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I think that what you feel emotionally from a movie, show, porn etc may excite you yes, but actually doing it, irl, can be extremely different.
Now some will say it's even better irl! But you just don't know that yet. And there's certainly no rush to find out.
But it's very smart of you to be aware of this part that you have. Maybe get to know it & handle it.
I hope the T helps.
Thank you. I hope the therapist knows a little about Sadism.
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Old Jul 05, 2017, 04:16 PM
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My therapist thinks its just an intrusive thought. Well, I guess I can't argue with a professional. Maybe when I'm older I'll visit another therapist. I probably won't hurt anyone. If other sadists can control this feeling (at least until they're older), so can I. Should I still be worried?

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Old Jul 05, 2017, 09:00 PM
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I mean worried that I might hurt somebody.
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Old Jul 06, 2017, 08:35 AM
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Should I find a different therapist or wait until I'm older and talk to a professional? There's no big rush.
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Old Jul 06, 2017, 04:42 PM
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So I did some research and I fond out that there's a difference between an interest in BDSM and Sexual Sadism Disorder. But what makes them different?
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Old Oct 11, 2017, 02:55 PM
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My therapist thinks its just an intrusive thought. Well, I guess I can't argue with a professional. Maybe when I'm older I'll visit another therapist. I probably won't hurt anyone. If other sadists can control this feeling (at least until they're older), so can I. Should I still be worried?
All you need to do really is just keep it in check. When you feel that you are starting to show signs of sadism, just stop what you're doing and take a second to "restart" and chill. This may not work for you, (I'm not sure as it differs from person to person), but it has worked slightly well for me. I hope this was helpful even in the slightest.
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Old Oct 13, 2017, 05:29 PM
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My partner is a sadist....we should chat.
Good advice. I enjoy a touch of sadism, as evidenced by my dom experiences, but I’m no expert on the need to inflict punishment on just anyone.
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Old Oct 14, 2017, 06:39 AM
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Good advice. I enjoy a touch of sadism, as evidenced by my dom experiences, but I’m no expert on the need to inflict punishment on just anyone.


In my situation it has very little to do with punishment. But I think that depends on the type of sadism explored, who the partner is & if there's masochism involved.
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