[ladytiger]

Hello.

I'm 31 single woman of almost 2 years. I still have a hard time or gas during penetration only or gas twice from it. My vaginal is tight as I've never had kids and don't want any at all. My vaginal is very sensitive to touch what are some tips on experiencing on a nice orgasm thru penetration?

Originally Posted by ladytiger

I'm 31 single woman of almost 2 years. I still have a hard time or gas during penetration only or gas twice from it. My vaginal is tight as I've never had kids and don't want any at all. My vaginal is very sensitive to touch what are some tips on experiencing on a nice orgasm thru penetration?

I don't have any tips on that.. but I did want to comment on the gas issue. I have / had that same issue. But I did find that the gas goes down the more you do it? I am not sure why. At least for me.

[Patagonia]

I think if your having gas issues it might be a build up of pressure during sex depending on the position you're in.
It happens to me when I'm in the doggy position & lower my torso. It creates a build up of air pressure & sometimes pain. So I need to adjust the position. Is that what you mean by gas??

Most women don't have orgasms during penetration....from what I've read. It's definitely possible, but not ideal.
And having children does not always equal losing the ability to be tight.

[ladytiger]

I meant orgasm. Not gas I'm typing on my phone

Originally Posted by ladytiger

I meant orgasm. Not gas I'm typing on my phone

Oh... never mind.

Actually I would be interested in this as well.. I usually need some clitoral help.

[shakespeare47]

I know there are probably some suggestions somewhere online that describe how to orgasm during vaginal sex, but as has been stated, most women find it very difficult.

Have you tried stimulating your clitoris manually during vaginal sex? It might be possible to bring yourself to orgasm with fingers or a vibrator.

My wife and I concentrate on her orgasm first, then have vaginal sex. We both find that option to be very satisfying.

[tryingtobeconstruct]

Originally Posted by Patagonia

Most women don't have orgasms during penetration.

What are your suggestions to men about this problem? As someone getting back into the game I want to know what I can do to bring my lovers off. One woman told me that the most reliable strategy is cunnilingus. I’m not a big fan of going down on a woman, but I think I could get into it if it makes her high.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by shakespeare47

I know there are probably some suggestions somewhere online that describe how to orgasm during vaginal sex, but as has been stated, most women find it very difficult.

Have you tried stimulating your clitoris manually during vaginal sex? It might be possible to bring yourself to orgasm with fingers or a vibrator.

My wife and I concentrate on her orgasm first, then have vaginal sex. We both find that option to be very satisfying.

That's pretty good advice. We women do have a G spot located somewhere in the vagina, but we need to be aroused to a certain point to have it show up first.

Basically, there are three types of orgasms for women to experience: Vaginal, Clitoral and Vaginal and Clitoral combined. The combo orgasm supposedly results in female ejaculation, or squirtling, but only a small percentage of women can achieve that.

I've never had such an experience myself, but I've heard you have the feeling of needing to pee really bad right before you climax that way. The ejaculate comes out of the woman's urethra so that makes a lot of sense.

That's all I know, but I would love to orgasm by vaginal penitration. I just haven't achieved it yet. Guess a vibrator might help.

[Patagonia]

I've had several different types of orgasms...& still exploring them. Definitely more than 3 & it really all depends on.....nothing in particular....we just explore what feels right.
Sometimes it depends on the shape of the penis & whether it can actually stay in contact with the clitoris, but everyone is different....so we adapt.
I think sometimes men need to say "show me how you do this" & they get a lesson on what the woman likes plus it's sensual to watch.
Society is obsessed with this vaginal orgasm bec it's the only way sex is depicted on media such as tv, movies & porn. It's our main educational system. Women think there's something wrong with them if they don't O & men usually ask if they did...bec that's the secondary goal of typical sex.
Ummmm sex is so not like tv sex. Just look at how nice her hair is at the end!!

[shakespeare47]

Regarding the G-spot and vaginal orgasm. A review posted in the Journal Anatomy suggests they are myths.

The point being that the some people are experiencing frustration by chasing after something that may not ever happen (a vaginal orgasm) instead of concentrating on what is proven (clitoral orgasms).

[amandalouise]

when I was having a problem having this problem I excused it away in many ways...

im a lesbian of course I would not get satisfaction from any form of penetration... turns out this is an old wives tale told to children and adults back in the days that masturbation was seen as taboo and lesbianism was seen as such things as mental illness and witch craft.

women dont enjoy sex enough so they have a hard time having orgasms (again false myth it is no more difficult for women to have vaginal orgasms then it is for a man to have wet dreams, hard ons and ejaculation)

through couples therapy I learned that any woman can have vaginal orgasms very easily. sex isnt just about the physical body parts its mental too. it also takes educating one self on their body and feelings..

for example I did not realize that "squirting" or as some people call it flooding or peeing the bed during sex was not something that had to happen in order for it to be called an orgasm...

an orgasm is just the name put on the feeling of reaching ones own highest point during sexual activity. everyone has their own "high point" its not the same for everyone. that feeling of being satisfied/ happy/

physically sometimes during an orgasm theres a feeling of shakiness, tenseness and for some contractions similar to labor pains. but its not always that intense sometimes when a female has an orgasm they may just feel a slight wave or two.

when my couples therapist explained this to me I realized I had already been having orgasms through penetration.

Suggestions that worked for me in recognizing my orgasms and achieving them...

never enter sex during or after an argument, my mind is more on the fight then the feeling of love and wonder of the human body and how touch can awaken the body in all kinds of ways.

experiment, know what I like and want, when I find something that feels good and makes my body react in any way explore and experiment with that. I cant tell my partner what turns me on if I dont know that myself. Masturbation is not a big taboo. no more than holding hands and tracing my fingers or toes, massaging them or brushing my hair and noticing how good that feels. the human body is full of wonders I just have to be open to exploring those wonders.

Dont just focus on just the vagina. I have learned that there are many erogenous zones on the body its not all "down there" ever wonder why it feels so good to get a back massage or brush ones hair, how rubbing ones arms or cheeks feel good.... I have discovered the human body is full of nerves that take in textures and touches that can lead to sexual arousal and orgasms.

when using objects make sure they fit. it doesnt work for me it the object is too big or too small or scratches and well you get the point. same with partners body part no one wants the pain of their partner too big and hitting the ovaries.. Ive been told by my couples therapist that this is the equivalent of a guy getting kicked in the balls.

and over all i have discovered for me its best not to focus on what I want to achieve (the orgasm) focus on the love and fun of the activity. one way to kill a good time in me is to to be in the mind set of gotta have an orgasm gotta have an orgasm, instead of wow that felt good when you did that or when I did that....

[ladytiger]

I am always tense from stress.

I have noticed I am getting those thoughts from the past how its my fault i couldn't orgasm. i cried yesterday to my friend that i was frustrated for not being able to cum it was taking too long with the penetration of fingering.

i have came from penetration with a toy of his that hit my g spot. i have came while playing with my clit and penetration that is far and few between i can achieve that again it still takes too long for me to even orgasm. a woman can finger me no prob i can orgasm but when it comes to a man it takes me forever to orgasm.

i like vibrators but i dont want to desensitive myself i use them once in a while when i want a good vibe.