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Nov 09, 2007, 11:11 PM
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yes I lie about not being a virgin though i terrified of intercourse. I don't know why i do it, i even told my gyno but when i went to get my pap smear i couldn't go through with it. I don't know why I'm so afraid to have sex, and I feel so bad about it because every guy that ive been with has left me because of it..i don't know what to do..how can i relax?
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Nov 09, 2007, 11:15 PM
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It may just be that its not time for you yet, and that is OK. I was a virgin until I was 21. I didn't say I wasn't, I just said I wasn't ready. If the guy didn't respect that, it was their loss.
Stick to your guns and when you're ready, you'll know it. I had my first pap at 16 because they were putting me on birth control to help regulate my cycles. It was scary but I did it. They always say to relax but I'd like to meet a woman who can during one of those.  Be easy on yourself and take your time.
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Nov 10, 2007, 10:59 AM
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BritBritt,
If a guy is leaving you because you are not ready to sleep with him, he is not worth your time! I have kids your age and my advice to them is if you are not comfortable talking about sex with the person you're planning on sleeping with, then your not ready to have sex. You'll know when your ready. At that time, if you are still afraid, then I would delve deeper into that topic, what is it that frightens you, why etc. But for the time being, you're young and there is nothing to be ashamed of. I would be a little concern about not being comfortable enough with your gyn to tell him/her that you are not sexually active. For your own sake find a doctor you are comfotable with.
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Nov 10, 2007, 02:19 PM
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I think it's a pain thing for me,I've always been afraid of pain,and everytime that i tried with my boyfriends it hurt.....
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Nov 10, 2007, 06:55 PM
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My first time didn't hurt, but I was ready for it, so I don't know if that made a difference or not.
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Nov 12, 2007, 01:39 AM
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Everybody's scared before their first time. Wait till you're comfortable and don't allow outside pressure from peers, friends, what you see on TV...etc, influence your decision. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. It's actually a very pure loving thing you can do for yourself, by waiting for the right time and person.
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