[marbleye]

Is "feel me" a lesbian term? For instance a woman wants her lover to manually stimulate her.

There is a term "feel her up".

I am a male and most women ask or tell me to touch or rub. This particular woman had already orgasmed and she said, " you don't need to feel me".

Any comments please.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by marbleye

Is "feel me" a lesbian term? For instance a woman wants her lover to manually stimulate her.

There is a term "feel her up".

I am a male and most women ask or tell me to touch or rub. This particular woman had already orgasmed and she said, " you don't need to feel me".

Any comments please.

no that term is not limited to just lesbians. my married best friend who is not a lesbian says it to her husband all the time as do others that I know.

you know how there are all kinds of fad sayings like there for a while everyone was saying the phrase "thats what I'm talking about" or heres an oldie from my siblings teen aged era... "sit and spin" meaning go.... yourself...

well the phrase "feel me" and "dont feel me" is just a way for anyone to tell their sexual partner what they need.... like when a person wants a kiss they say kiss me or dont kiss me... well telling someone to feel me or dont feel me lets the other person know what they want.

in intimate relationships its normal to tell each other what feels good or not, whether more touching is needed or not and so on.

my suggestion is talk with the person who said this to you, they will be able to tell you why they were communicating with you on what they needed or didnt need after sex.

[Patagonia]

I was thinking, if she’d already orgasmed, her saying “you don’t need to feel me,” may mean not to feel or rub her clitoris.
After a clitoral orgasm the nerve endings are super stimulated & very sensitive. So maybe it means that she needs a break from touching or rubbing it afterwards....almost letting it cool down.
Idk.
Like AmandaLoiuse said it wouldn’t hurt to ask too.

[88Butterfly88]

I've never heard that term used in a sexual way. Urban dictionary says "Feel me is a term used to see if someone understands what you are talking about.

Example #1
Some guy: The absence evidence is not the evidence of absence, you feel me?
Another guy: Yeah."

[CelestialFlame]

I agree with Butterfly here lol

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by 88Butterfly88

I've never heard that term used in a sexual way. Urban dictionary says "Feel me is a term used to see if someone understands what you are talking about.

Example #1
Some guy: The absence evidence is not the evidence of absence, you feel me?
Another guy: Yeah."

I learned the term from my niece (who found out the term from her high school friends, its amazing what teenagers discuss and call communicating today ) and my couples therapist, and planned parenthood (both of which teach how to communicate during intimacy moments) it also appears in many sexually oriented books both fiction and nonfiction like how to's, romance novels and x rated materials.

[88Butterfly88]

Originally Posted by amandalouise

I learned the term from my niece (who found out the term from her high school friends, its amazing what teenagers discuss and call communicating today ) and my couples therapist, and planned parenthood (both of which teach how to communicate during intimacy moments) it also appears in many sexually oriented books both fiction and nonfiction like how to's, romance novels and x rated materials.

Interesting, I guess it has a double meaning and Urban Dictionary is out of date.

I'm with butterfly as well. Never heard of it used that way.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I'm with butterfly as well. Never heard of it used that way.

Me three. I hear it on Jerry Springer. "She just doesnt turn me on anymore, so i had to cheat. You feel me, Jerry?"
Jerry: "heh heh, i'll pass! Yeah, i feel yah."

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by marbleye

Is "feel me" a lesbian term? For instance a woman wants her lover to manually stimulate her.

There is a term "feel her up".

I am a male and most women ask or tell me to touch or rub. This particular woman had already orgasmed and she said, " you don't need to feel me".

Any comments please.

Gosh. We used that term as ‘locker room talk’ in high school circa 1972.

If my friend Jeff and I doubled with my steady, Nancy, and Jeff’s date, Emily, I might say, after taking the girls home, “did ya get any?” “Ah,” he might reply, “she let me feel her up.”

I do not believe - and I could be wrong - that any woman has said to me, “feel me.” I’ve heard “touch me” many times. More specific requests, certainly. I have never, never had any woman cum and then say, “you don’t need to feel me.” I have experienced having my head torn off by my hair, having my noggin clenched between Thighs of Steel and other manners that women have of acknowledging that one or two orgasms were sufficient and I Am Not Enjoying Such Intensity Now.

Oh. “Tie me up.” Heard that a lot.

Jeff’s dead now. Died in the 21st century, 2001. I don’t think that I’ve heard “feel her up” since 1972, maybe.

Odd but interesting question.

[Patagonia]

Lol maybe Timothy Leary started it in the 1950-1960’s. Psyche drugs...?? Lol.

I'm picturing saying this to my husband and its making me laugh. I mean to each their own, but I couldn't say it with a straight face.

[*Laurie*]

Originally Posted by 88Butterfly88

I've never heard that term used in a sexual way. Urban dictionary says "Feel me is a term used to see if someone understands what you are talking about.

Example #1
Some guy: The absence evidence is not the evidence of absence, you feel me?
Another guy: Yeah."

Yeah. Like The Who and See Me, Feel Me....

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I'm picturing saying this to my husband and its making me laugh. I mean to each their own, but I couldn't say it with a straight face.

I feel ya.

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

Yeah. Like The Who and See Me, Feel Me....

That is exactly what I thought of seeing the subject line.

I also hear “I feel ya” several times weekly.

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I'm picturing saying this to my husband and its making me laugh. I mean to each their own, but I couldn't say it with a straight face.

This term also makes me think of “down there”... a catch-all for the mons/vulva/clitoris/vagina, etc. “You okay down there?”

And then there’s that question that women inevitably ask, “how do I feel?” Usually asked during a time of extreme eroticism and answered in lurid detail. I mean if your answer is ”fine” you risk physical harm.

Gosh. This topic could branch off so many new topics. “Have you ever...” sorts of subjects.

“Have you ever broken a penis whilst over-exerting your cowgirl skills?”

I’m gonna be the 21st-century’s Kinsey.

[shakespeare47]

Originally Posted by marbleye

Is "feel me" a lesbian term? For instance a woman wants her lover to manually stimulate her.

There is a term "feel her up".

I am a male and most women ask or tell me to touch or rub. This particular woman had already orgasmed and she said, " you don't need to feel me".

Any comments please.

I'm 51 and I remember "feel her up" being used as a sexual term. But, not "feel me".

I think this is one of those times you need to see the forest to see the tree, meaning context matters.

[shakespeare47]

New phrases are created all the time- sometimes they catch on, sometimes they don't.

[Borderline69]

Hum, I hear it all the time and it isn't something sexual at all. It means the same as " catch my drift " or " are you picking up what I'm laying down " ...are ya feeling me yet? Do you feel me ? Feel me? Different meaning for different regions perhaps.

[Candy1955]

Wow, what a terrific thread. I'm feeling me.