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It's okay Cyrano!! I appreciate your thought. It's just that upon returning from that damn clinic in Seattle, that I hated myself for even going. I should have gone with my instincts
and stepped out of the marriage altogether. If I had had more courage and stamina, I think that would have been the better of two choices. He simply NEVER could perform
with me. I don't understand why MEN are so vain about their bodies when they malfunction? It's like they can't take
responsibility for themselves!! That's what I'm saying, none
the less.
I failed many times over and I can't turn it around. I'm just
not the marrying kind I guess. Too much abuse from early
childhood and young adulthood. You never got over those
things..........they haven't invented that art yet?????
Anyway, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I take full responsibility for my actions. I don't mean to make anyone
feel inferrior, it's my own fault for the way I take things.

Hope we can still be friendly???? on the forums.

drummer, of course we can still be friends!

I just meant I'm sorry if what I said truly upset you as I was only trying to help. Beyond that, you can agree or disagree with anything I post as much as you'd like. It's the great thing about opinions and advice, we can ignore both if we so choose.

No, I'm more concerned about your wellbeing. It sounds like you're in a really bad place right now and I hope things get better. I really do.

Cyran0

I AGREE!, we can be friends. Like I said Cyrano, I'm a bit
touchy about talking of personal things and I can come off
a bit oblique at times. Anyway, I like your posts. You didn't tell me to get screwed.........most guys do if they get insulted.
Ya know?
I do not know if you've read my other postings or not, but I
have one in the sexual abuse forum and if you care to read them you might understand why I turned out the way I did??
I know it's judging my husband by every other man, but I
really felt I gave it my all and it seemed "hopeless" after all.
So now I live a peaceful, celibate life with him and don't talk to him about that anymore. It justs makes him feel bad.....or
like I'm putting him down. I just gave up pressuring him.....
that's all. Operative word: I GAVE UP!!!!
NOT IN!!!!

Thanks for understanding.
drmr

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Campanula said:
It includes how they measure hardness....and it is NOT with a "ring toss" game, which was my initial guess.

Campy

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Umm, but the interview said, "For a while physicians were using a device where they would place the device around the penis at night. . ."

Close enough to ring toss for me! :-)

one word - Viagra

you can hammer nails after taking 1

lol

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I don't understand why MEN are so vain about their bodies when they malfunction?

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Hi drummergirl....

If I was to answer that question for myself,,it would be the fear that I was no longer a man. Now, of course, that is a misplaced fear as my manhood is not directly related to my ability to perform sexually at any given moment.

However, it is an illusion created by the society that I live in. Youth, vigor, exaggerated muscles and appendages and such smiling awe struck faces of those who would wish to be with such flesh.

It takes years of failures of varying degrees and the simple act of "becoming" as time will offer to, that we can begin to truely understand value.

I am sorry that your physical relationship puts such imbalance into your world. The act itself is such an incredible gift,,one enjoyed by most mammels and probably far more species,,but it is often what is put between our ears and not our legs that cause the most deflation in the experience...

IMHO.

Lenny

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Rhapsody said:
More and more doctors are starting to say the "Hardness Factor" in men can tell a lot about his health....... the Good and the Bad.

"The harder the erection - the healthier the man"

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We're good to go then lol

hmmm will have to check on that one lol

So what will I do now, I have DE. So it may be right that I should set my wife free or find another man for this aspect of marriage (sex in bed). Before sex fantasies help us, until I reach the point of telling her that maybe we should "invite" someone to do "it" for her or maybe we must say it goodbye now. I am 60 and she is 49.
What do you think.

It varries accoding to a lot of condtions. The one thing that will help preserve the strength and intergrity of "the little man" is to stay in shape, studies have shown that carring a lot of gut will inhibit errections especially as men age.

im not in shape....but I do use Viagra

God Bless Pfizer!

mang dont give up on your marriage. God gave you other tools to use to please her.

Is taking viagra or cialis still advisable for a 60 year old man like me?

Check with your Doctor, if you are in generally good health it should be no problem to continue to use erection enhancements, but your Doc can best advise you in case there is a problem or those meds may interact in a bad way with any other regular prescriptions you may take.