Curious

How many of you have ever been in or would consider being in a threesome?

i put would like to try it out but only under certain circumstances. if im with someone in a commited relationship - no way. that would definately cause too many problems and i know myself to well to think i could handle that. but if it were just a one night thing i would definately consider it.

me and my wife have enough extra pounds to qualify for a threesome

LOL HA HA HA

Great answer-B, Great answer, I could say the same!

I used to think I would like to try it but to be honest since I have been with my husband the thought has never occured to me.

The idea of it sounds hot to me but I'm probably too much of a chicken to ever really go thru with it. I wouldn't know what to do. Plus I'm married, so that kind of throws a wrench in it...I doubt he'd want to.

IMO - I think we all fantasize about this kind of sexual adventure a time or two in our life....... but doing it is some thing else all together.
I will stick to my fantasy - as it is probably better than the real thing.

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hahaha i loved that..and i know what you mean. hahaha

I have been in one (a long long time ago) and ya know, over rated.

Cyran0

highly over rated! too many to please hehe

I did it twice....I think I'm too easily triggered by that kind of stuff. It just felt too much like being raped.

Honestly, I would like to give it a go but it would have to be with another girl, too many issues to try with another guy....but either way hubby says a firm NO and thinks I am sick for even suggesting such a thing... He says he does not have that fantasy at all... just as well b/c it would go against my faith...and I struggle enough with that...

Been there and done that...before marriage, of course.

It was awkward. If you do it I recommend doing it with people you feel very comfortable with. Make sure you communicate what you want from the experience first.

Been there, done that...would only do it again if I knew the person for a long time and trusted them as I did the first time I did it.

I find a lot of these answers interesting. I cannot understand a hetro male being repulsed by the idea of having 2 women at once. I would relish and fully embrace the challange of giving pleasure to two women at the same time. I have tried to talk my wife into it but so far she is resolutely against it. Understand that in that area that my endurance( for reaons that would be TMI) exceeds hers and I am never satisfied with the act itself . I love to give pleasure, and crave the reactions I get from using the right kind of touch or pressing the hot buttons perfectly. Oh well its not in the cards for me. all this energy and no outlet... alas

Each to their own Timgt5....but other than the superficial ego trip being entertained by the act(s),,it seems to this middle aged man to be like mining for gold in a sandbox...

Everything I would ever need is in the imagination and wonderfull design of one confident, curious and gentle woman...there is the gold....may I be equal to it's shine...

More is not always better,,actually I would think that with the emotional triggers embedded within the biological orgasm are more intrinsic to a deeply connected bond. However I am humble enough to admit that there is much about the world of pure sex that eludes me....

I am sorry that your endurance leaves you so unsatisfied. Maybe a small mini marathon before intimate relations would help.

I hope your wish is granted...but be carefull with wishes...

Lenny

I did this a couple of times when I was younger, and believe me Tim - it's NOT about the man and his 'skills'... as much as I'm sure you'd like to think it would be...

Good response, Lenny, very inciteful, and a good suggestion about the mini marathon. I appreciate the respect you show for my perspective as well, thank you

TJ

Interesting insight and perspective, thank you

Yeah...I agree with LMo...there are more important things involved than skill. I could seriously care less about if a man can make me orgasm or what he can do...it's just being able to bond with me on a deeper level...and that should be private...no audience needed. lol

i care about bonng and all... but i wouldnt go so far as to say that i couldnt care less whether i orgasmed or not. lol

*I* didn't say anything about not caring whether I had an orgasm... but it doesn't turn me on any more to watch my male partner get off with another woman than it does for him to get me off directly. The man's participation is not the "variable" in this kind of arrangement. Seems to me that if a woman is looking to spice up her sex life, it needs to be for HER and what SHE can get out of it, not to merely make someone else's fantasy come true.

In fact, I'm guessing that if someone's wife doesn't have much endurance with her partner alone, then she wouldn't see the point in being pressured to spend even MORE time and energy introducing a third person to the mix, if all she'd be doing is allowing her partner an additional outlet.

That being said, if a woman's desire is to watch her partner with another woman, then sure, a threesome with an emphasis on the man's "skills" would come into play. I don't know too many women who would be into that, though. I think those women would be quite the exception to the rule, but hey what do I know? I suppose another poll with that question would clear up the issue for Tim.

Boy do i stir up a lot of trouble LOL. I am with Lenny, it all depends on the individual. I probably did not express myself well. The "skills" thing simply represents my desire to give pleasure to others, I am most excited by the way others respond to my actions. If my partner is not enjoying everything I do, then I am not satisfied either.

The endurance and recovery thing is partially just freak genetics and partially a deeply seated resentment of critism and failure. I have very low SE when it comes to dating, marriage and relationships. So when when I was younger I focused on performance. I wanted to be the most knowledgeable and technically gifted lover anyone could be with.

So now it has all backfired on me, there an admission, one can go too far with anything, even if it is a good thing. And now I am left with this unfulfilled near obsession.

I hope you guys can forgive me for having this aspect to my being. I agree with everyone's various points to each his or her own.

Thanks for understanding and accepting my weirdness

Love to you all

TJ

i think i was the one that stirred up %#@&#!. thats why i put the 'lol' at the end but that always gets looked over LOL LOL LOL

I am actually suprised at the amount of people who have read this post. The poll results are rather interesting too. I did not have the foresight to break this down demographically, too bad for me LOL