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Jun 20, 2008, 12:07 AM
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OK I'm putting this out there... be kind 'cause I can't handle negativity tonight.
I'm sure this is just some psychological manifestations related my problems with being touched and inability to be uninhibited during physical intimacy. I was wondering... has any one else struggled with incredible hypersensitivity immediately following an O? I rarely reach this point lately with my H, but when I do I just want him OFF ME immediately. This response seems almost reflexive. I suddenly feel claustrophobic. Just snuggling or caressing my shoulder is uncomfortable. If H attempts to continue directly stimulate me it is literally intolerable. I also feel often experience abdominal cramping then nausea. These symptoms often greatly over shadow the short live pleasure experience during the O.
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Jun 20, 2008, 12:54 AM
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Yes - I use to go thru event like this a few years back..... and I dealt with it by talking to my husband and letting him know that my problem was not with him, but rather with me and the issues I had been dealing with in T the last few months.
it really helped my husband to know that I was not disgusted in him or having sex with him. |
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Jun 20, 2008, 07:56 PM
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Thanks Rhapsody
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Jun 20, 2008, 09:14 PM
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You are Welcome.........
 I hope you stay SAFE during the times that these ugly feelings surface. |
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Jun 20, 2008, 11:18 PM
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okay, im a guy but i had hypersensitivity before. rt after an O or shortly after it sometimes i get extremely sensitive and even a small touch anywhere is just overwhelming. its hard to explain but i know what u mean. just let ur H know what ur experiencing so he knows whats up. he should be able to understand and maybe ur hyper sensitivity will calm down eventually or occur less often. best of luck.
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Jun 21, 2008, 12:25 AM
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I think the hypersensitivity part I might be able deal with but my mental response to it lingers and kind of creates a self feeding cycle that continues fuel and escalate the physical symptoms. The intensity of has changed over the course of the past year. I've gone from being incredibly depressed after sex to being totally triggered by the thought of being touched, to now back to what seems like my "normal" baseline--tolerating sex but being uncomfortable. I guess i should be happy with this.
Rhapsody thanks I'm safe for now, I just don't want to go back to the two previous states. If I have to live in those states....I will not be safe for long.
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Jun 21, 2008, 07:00 PM
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After some o's it has been really sensitive to touch even if i wanted more. That I think is not pshycological, but i never had the feeling that i wanted him to get off or stop. But everyone reacts to things differrent because of past history, experiences, etc.
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