Intimate Physical Problem

DISCLAIMER: Graphic descriptions for medical and understanding purposes. Not to be a pervert.

This problem isn't psychological, it's physical. I plan to see a dr., but wanted opinions on what it could be. Not long ago, I tested for stds and tested negative for everything. I hadn't had sex in awhile, so anything that entered my system before this period of abstinence should have shown up in the tests. I know some things take awhile to show, but almost anything should have shown up by this time. Well, I became sexually active again. The person is supposedly monogamous with me even though I gave them permission to be with other people. They are usually insanely honest, so I don't know why they'd lie to me about this when I said I'm fine with them being with others as long as they're open with me.

Well, anyway, everytime I have my period I get raw down there. From hormones, partially, I guess, from excess blood flow to the region making it more sensitive, too, prob. And from the menstrual "protection" rubbing me raw. So, I expect to be more raw than usual. My period had just ended, so I was a little more tender than usual. I ended up messing around with this guy again. Everything was fine at first. Later during this sex session, when he was touching me, I suddenly started burning. And I do mean BURNING. Now, we'd had oral and vaginal/penile sex, neither burned. He'd also touched me there earlier, I'd touched myself. Neither burned, but suddenly when he was touching me again, I was on fire. It felt like the inside of my vagina and my vulva both had been covered in a firey chemical. It was like a chemical spill down there.

Most of the time I was well lubicated, but not sure if I was then, so maybe that was it. I had him lay off it a bit and tried myself- very easily- and tried to make sure the whole area was lubricated. At first, even the lubrication burned though, like some substance that didn't belong on my skin there. Well, then I was fine. We kept messing around and later, he touched me again. I was on fire. I don't remember if he touched me inbetween these two times and I was okay or not, but he touched me earlier that day and many times before and I was fine. But I was on fire again. This time I told him I was really sore and raw and needed to give it a rest.

I don't have signs of an infection, as far as I have noticed. Last time I saw the gyno she said everything seemed okay, but didn't test for BV. Anyway, everything else was okay. I don't know if I just got an infection, if this guy has lied to me or just carried something unawares and I got it, if one of my tests was wrong, if my period just had me super raw and I wasn't well lubed at those times he was touching me, or if there was something on his fingers. He did use his spit at one point or two, but we'd had oral earlier, and that was fine. I wondered if he touched himself and had some pre-cum on his hands, accidentally. I know seminal allergies are really rare, though, and I think I've had pre-cum there before. It never bothered me. It also doesn't bother my hands, and isn't a prob. during oral. Maybe he had something else on his hands somehow? Also, I got home and looked online and saw a common cold can cause burning there. I have a BAD cold right now, so could this be it? It doesn't seem to be burning any other time, though, so I don't know. Thanks.

my first thought is maybe he had eaten something hot. spicy hot like maybe peppers and it could have been on his fingers. just a thought.

Dear Locust,

Recently, I used a topical muscle rub called "Tiger Balm", on my arm and shoulder. It did cause, my partner, some distress, even though I washed my hands, at least once, prior to digital penetration. I believe, the distress was minimized, because, she immediately realized what happened, and made me aware of her distress.

My thoughts are, your issue is along these lines, i.e., a reaction to some external chemical substance. Consider asking your partner, if he is using any kind of topical ointment on his hands, or applying it somewhere with his hands.

Also, ask him if he is using any kind of topical product on his penis, e.g., a desensitizer. Some men will use these to delay ejaculation, in order to please their partner. However, they may be too embarrassed to tell her.

You could be having an allergic reaction to a condom, i.e., if you are using one, even though, you hadn't had allergic reactions to condoms in the past. The change could be in you, or the condom. I would think, this would apply to male and female condoms.

Lastly, I would explore your partners food consumption, and use of oral products, e.g., tooth paste, mouthwash, breath freshener. I wouldn't recommend Binanca prior to cunnilingus.

I wish you the best,

Larry

Thanks to everyone who replied. I think you're both right. It was prob. a foreign substance that had made it into his mouth (then to his hands), or onto his hands. It hadn't done it earlier in the day, my hands didn't seem to do it, and it hasn't bothered me before or since. Prob. just over-reacted.

Also, Malachite, thanks for the advice to avoid specific products. And bebop- good thought about the spicy stuff. It's a possibility and it would make sense why it would burn me alive.

Thanks again you two!

~Locust