fetish questions

Anyone have any insight on the possibility of getting rid of fetishes

I have heard of them being overcome, but not sure how. I imagine you'd have to determine what started or caused the fetish in the first place. For some people it's probably obvious, for others it's probably a huge mystery & something too deeply embedded for them to figure out without someone's help. I do know that the two biggest fetishes for men involve women's underwear & shoes & it's due to smell. Learned that in a psych class from a prof who researched sexual fetishism. Ooh, maybe that's a start, look up some research on it if you haven't already?

Don't have any real answers for you unfortunately, wish I did. I just wanted to respond so you're not ignored. I've discovered sometimes people are a bit shyer at responding over the sexual or fetish type stuff first. Wanted to get the ball rolling for you.

The question we have to ask ourselves is a sexual fetish a bad thing ? Or is it just a question of personnel taste. I beleive so long as the 'fetish' doesn't bother the person or anyone else then there is no problem.

It just means you are going against a social pre conception that that particular fetish is an unusual thing, so maybe the answer is to just keep it to yourself.

And let society worry about its own problems of which there are many.

Yeah, me too. Good point Tishie.

Fetishes that are actually dangerous to oneself or others are one thing. But it seems most are not. Embarrassment is the real danger...a fear of not fitting in, not being able to act out one's fantasies with partners, etc.

Just my opinion, but I think people should use psychological help to accept and live with a fetish, rather than try to get rid of it (again, unless it's dangerous).

I figured your question arose because it was related to something that was either causing you some sort of problem, shame, or embarrassment. But like the others say, if it's not something really harmful, then screw what the world says & thinks & try to enjoy yourself with it. We've all got weird quirks somehow.

I would like to add.... as long as the fetish "does not harm" you or another person then there is no problem, as long as you are comfortable with it.

I agree with Tishie, as long as it's consensual, don't let it bother you, it's simply a part of your sexual persona.

Cheers,
Gene