[Sceptre4444]

My GF and I trust each other with everything, and are very open. Up until last month we were both Virgins. We have tried sex 6 times, and are really frustrated, and I'm bored.

Before my GF and I lost our virginity, I would stimulate her clit until she got her O. She would do the same to me, but with less success. I find it really hard to get an orgasm.

all this info about guys being premature, I seem to be the opposite. But it's all for nothing anyway...

Unfortunately, with Vaginal sex she feels next to no pleasure. And given the alternative of me stimulating her clit with my finger (she gets an orgasm within 5-10 minutes), sex seems pretty purposeless.

For me I struggled to reach a climax, either with her hand, or through her vagina. Mostly I just want to reach a climax quickly, because she doesn't enjoy it, besides it takes me like a half an hour sometimes.

I would like to know how she can reach more pleasure through vaginal sex. She is very shy, and she didn't begin to touch herself until she was 28, 4 years ago, she definately will not buy a toy of anysort, I would have to buy it and bring it to her. But as I've said, why try a Toy, when she can have a O within 7minutes with me stimulating her. She only puts up with sex because she wants me to experience pleasure too, and vaginal sex doesn't tire her arm the way a hand job does.

This seems like a crappy situation, I want vaginal sex over quickly, and she just wants an O through me stimulating her clit. Not much of a Sex life. After 37 years of being a virgin, I was expecting something more exciting, but after 6 or 7 times I'm bored with the whole thing. I'd rather just cuddle with her.

is this as good as it gets?

[bebop]

that is a tough one. are you taking up alot of time with foreplay or just getting down to business? the key to good/great/fantastic sex is to be totally relaxed and confident. there is so much more to sex than just stimulating the clitoris and penis. don't give up just yet.

[Rachie]

If its hard 4 her 2 orgasm thru just intercourse i recommend buying a small vibrator and use it while ur having sex. U can try doggy style and get her to put the vibrator on her clitoris while ur penetrating her. I used to hav to do this because i could never orgasm thru just sex and now i can and dnt even need clitoral stimulation during sex. Hope thathelps

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by Sceptre4444

Unfortunately, with Vaginal sex she feels next to no pleasure. And given the alternative of me stimulating her clit with my finger (she gets an orgasm within 5-10 minutes), sex seems pretty purposeless.

Have you thought about using a vibrating ring that goes around the penis... the vibration will give her the clitoral stimulation she needs to reach an orgasm and it will also help stir up physical feelings for you as well - this way the two of you can climax together.

... if feeling adventurous an*l plugs are great for male pleasure.

I am gonna get jumped on for this lol.

Have you thought of getting a porn movie it may give you some idea of diff postitions ? Or a book off the internet ?

[bebop]

tishie that is a great idea.

it seems there is just some learning that needs to happen in this situation. don't give up on the sex yet.

[Tumnus]

sceptre, if anything folks have suggested work for you, let me know. my hubby's like you and i'm bored. i've been having all kinds of fun by myself but not with him. can't o vaginally with or without him but have had some great success in other ways alone. i'd just rather share with him, you know?

[AAAAA]

Remember the brain is the is the most important sexual organ. If you're not there mentally, no matter what you do physcially it's not going to happen.

[rappacinisgarden]

Definitely I think foreplay is very important... And also I think that sometimes we focus too much on the O part, leaving out all the exquisite things in between! The O shouldn't be the ultimate goal, just an expression of what all happened before. If your gf is the shy type, I am also, then I advise a long play time before and a lot of reassurance, like your beutiful, i love your lips or anything of that sort(think about a body part u love most of your gf, and convince her that u completely adore)... Maybe u have to build confidence first a little since both have recently lost virginity. I think many women, included myself, need a real warming up... Some women get real pain at the begaining of their sexual experience and may take some time to feel confident and relax. Forget about your up to now frustrated attempts and concentrate on the parts u like from one another. The clitoris can also be stimulated with your penis instead of the hand, for example, and maybe both can get an O mutually by this without penetration. Once you get across this path u can attempt penetration. Explore,explore and explore! Patience is also an important factor... rap

[salukigirl]

i think with both of you being inexperienced neither really know what to do. and if neither of you are experienced at even pleasuring yourself....well then you dont even know what you like really. even though most women can't, or find it very difficult, to have a vaginal climax, having sex still feels good. you both sound like you need to step on the brakes for a minute and take some time to figure out what turns the both of you on first before just jumping into the thinking of "im bored with sex".

and i would def suggest a book thats something about 365 ways... its like a new position for everyday of the year. good stuff!

The karma sutra ?