[Pegasister17]

This dream was very strange...
I remember going to a fair and seeing a voice actor from a show that I used to watch. I went with a kid that I know, but don't talk to. I then went to a park with my sister. It was a clear and normal day and there was an old war plane in the sky (it was a B-29 bomber). Me and my sister were watching it as it crashed to the ground. I don't remember an explosion ever happening but it broke into pieces and one piece landed in my foot. I said ouch and jumped in surprise.
The second dream has an old theme to it...
Me and my mom are at, what appears to be, a store. We were looking in between racks when I gasped. I saw my crush and his girlfriend sitting at a table. My mom walks out of the aisle and it grows quiet in the room. My mom asked if that was the guy I liked and I was trying to get her to stop talking. I said yes and told her to stop talking about him. When I looked over once more, my crush was lowering his head trying to look through the racks at me. When I saw him looking at me, I ran off.
What in the world does this mean??!

[MusicMike]

The first step is to list all your associations, taking each piece of the dream by itself and not worrying about the overall meaning. So, what are your associations to fairs? What do you feel about them? What do you think of? What do you expect? What is your feeling about this old TV show and the actor? Tell us more about this kid you know. What is he like? How about parks? B-29 bombers? Crashing can be your mood crashing, or coming back to earth in a jarring way (if you, for instance, in a hypomanic state or somehow elevated in mood). It's a war plane: do you have any sense it is going to bomb something?

Tell us more about this crush, and what he is like. Do you feel envious of the girlfriend or very disappointed that he's not available? What draws you to him? Does your mom talk about him in real life? Do you get any sense whether she is being nosy, or being helpful, or what? Any sense of what your crush was thinking as he looked at you?

One thought that comes to mind is that your mood might crash (the plane crash) when you see your crush with his girlfriend.

Is this a real-life crush or just someone who appears in the dream? If he is real-life, it is likely that he represents both the real-life person, and qualities within yourself that are similar to the real-life person. Can you tell us what you admire about him?

[Pegasister17]

First off, I love going to fairs and I just went to one about a week ago. The old show was an anime that I enjoyed, until the fandom made me hate the show. The voice actor was voicing a character that first got me into the anime.
My crush is a real-life crush. He has appeared in so many of my dreams. Sometimes with his girlfriend, and sometimes without. The very first dream I had of him, he was raping me. The last one he was just staring at me demonically because I smiled at another man. I am envious of his girlfriend in real-life and have been upset ever since they got together. My mood goes down every time I see them. I really regret not making a move when I had the chance as he showed that he cared for me when I had a class with him. What you said about the plane is most likely true as well! My mom has been somewhat helpful, but she doesn't really care. I honestly think he was thinking that I was being creepy as I looked at him. I only looked at him because I thought I knew him. That's why I ran off. As for real-life, I admire his sweet and quiet personality and I loved that he showed he cared about me. I remember that he was trying to ask me what was wrong, but I couldn't trust him. He most likely thought I hated him and didn't trust him. To this day, I can't help to think that that girl could have been me.

[MusicMike]

One thing I notice is that you admire much about him in real life and know he is a good caring person, but when he shows up in your dreams it is always traumatic in some way. Perhaps intimacy is threatening to you? Often in dreams a character will have a double role, both representing the external person and representing those qualities within yourself. How would you contrast or compare yourself to him? Do you think of yourself as also sweet and quiet and caring, or not?

The dream starts out with all good qualities, a pleasant fair and thoughts of a character that you admire, but the plane crash interrupts it all. Interesting that eventually you hated the show, like something interrupted your enjoyment of that as well. It seems like this dream is portraying very intrusive experiences in otherwise good experiences.

[Pegasister17]

That is very interesting about the fair and the anime. I still see the show pop up every now and then, but I will never go back to liking it. As for my crush, we do seem to have the same qualities. We both love music (he plays guitar and I'm going to learn how to play a bass guitar), we're quiet, sweet, kind, and caring. His girlfriend seems nothing like him and I can kinda see why I still have feeling for him (its now been 7 months) I do kinda fear intimacy as I fear that I will never find someone, or that I will screw something up. I never plan on making a move on him as I fear what may happen...

[MusicMike]

Yes, it does seem like you fear that actually getting close to him, he will change into someone or something traumatic. For instance, raping you... a moment that is supposed to be good intimacy (sex) is traumatic instead. This fear may be why you didn't take your chance with him 7 months ago. The fear seems to be about his transformation into a guy who rapes you or has a creepy stare. Some of this may relate to your formative years, for instance how you related to your parents. Parents can feel nurturing at times and can feel angry or judgmental at times. I know for myself that left a difficult in trusting people.. will this seemingly caring person suddenly turn on me?

Can you say more about the personality of his girlfriend? and if she is nothing like him, why is he drawn to her? Any idea?

Mike

[Pegasister17]

I never really thought of the fear of intimacy with him, I just feared what me might say. When I told this to my friend, she said that he was so nice to me because he found another girl in his life that made him happy, nothing more. His girlfriend is bisexual (she dated one of my best friends) and dumped her for my crush. I don't know why he's drawn to her. I always remember him talking about her when I had a class with him. The more he talked about her, the more upset I got. I never showed I cared but putting my head down. All if my friends said that he is 2 years younger than me and that I should just get over him..but it's not easy.. At one point, everyone was saying that he was flirting, but I kept saying no. I can't say for sure.. One thing I do know is, is that I don't have a chance with him, but these dreams are so confusing at times. Especially involving him.

[Thunder Bow]

There are distance and things between you and your "crush". At least you feel that way. You do seem to be afraid of him for some reason.

The war plane came out of the blue and silently crashed and a part of it became part of your foot. You are more down to earth than aloft. Your feet touch the Earth.

[Pegasister17]

The plane crashing to earth seems right about me being more down to earth and friendly. As for my crush, I do fear him a bit...especially as all of my friends say that he may be unsafe. After the rape dram, I don't think I can really ever talk to him.

[yellowted]

sorry i haven't a clue what your dreams mean, but think plane crash dreams definitely have a meaning. years ago i had a dream of a plane crashing in the field out the back of where i live, it broke in half, burst into flames and i went running out with a can opener to try and open it up to get people out! to this day i do not know the meaning ofthe dream, but if there is ever a plane crash i will definitely take more than a can opener out with me!

[MusicMike]

I like Thunder Bow's point that after the crash, you become more grounded. I would just add that it's a painful experience. So if this is talking about your crush, perhaps the dream is saying that, although it's painful to have your mood crash when you realize he is with his girlfriend, it's truly the most grounded (realistic) perception. Perhaps it is saying you are most grounded when you can stay with the idea that it's not going to work.

[Pegasister17]

Wow I guess that us right. I never thought of it like that. Especially when the plane was crashing in a different dream. I just can't figure out why he was looking at me. I just keep telling myself that it's not going to happen and I guess that's what keeps me grounded.

[MusicMike]

Looking at you in a creepy way is an unwelcome intrusion, unwelcome attention. The rape dream most exemplifies that, the most unwelcome attention imaginable. Maybe it is saying that thoughts of him intrude on your experiences. The bomber crash interrupts your experience with the fair, and you have positive associations to fairs, but that is interrupted.

[Pegasister17]

Hm, I guess that's right. I've been depressed lately (it comes and goes) and maybe my dreams are trying to tell me that he is unsafe for me. (I should listen to what my friends are telling me!) Maybe my thoughts are being carried over to my dreams and are portraying him in a negative way. Though when he was looking at me, it wasn't creepy. I think he was curious to see who it was.