What Is Your Best Dream?

Maybe I should post this in the depression forum... I dunno. Sorry if you think this is in the wrong place.

Last night for the first time in months at least, I had a great dream. I get them every so often -- the kind of dream where you get exactly what you want. I don't know what others see in this kind of dream but for me it's always romantic love. Pathetic for a guy, I know. Just one girl -- not a "perfect" person by any means, but one who is a bit odd like me, who shares my unpopular beliefs and accepts me for who I am. Someone who can be as obsessed with me as I'd be with her. A best friend and a lover, the only person I'd ever need. Pretty simple, right? Last night I lived it vividly for just a little while. It was wonderful.

I hate waking from those dreams; it's even worse than waking from a nightmare. After a nightmare I'm relieved to be awake and to know that it was all not real. But waking from the best dreams makes me incredibly depressed. I felt a stabbing pain in my heart, and within minutes I genuinely MISSED that cute, quirky, nameless girl. I spent the whole day in a daze, always thinking back on the dream and wishing I could get back to it -- at any cost. Reality is just so disappointing.

Is it normal to wish you'd never wake up after a dream like this? I wish I could just die and meet oblivion instead of waking to this dreary, cruel world. I'd give anything to live in that dreamworld forever. But I know that the dream is gone now and I'll probably be starting on another long chain of nightmares soon; pleasant dreams are rare for me, even though I dream almost every night.

Just thought I'd share. Does anyone else feel like this? Also, if it's not too personal, I'd like to know: what's your "best" dream?

My best advice is to stop finding reasons that make you feel bad about yourself and life. If you have a good dream, enjoy it. It usually means you are having a good connection with some part of yourself. Thus it is all very real, even in waking life.

My best dream is being on my Horse.

I have had the same types of dreams that involve romantic love that you have. They are so beautiful that they defy words. The emotions are so magnified, even if I am just holding hands with the person. And I also can relate completely to the pain of waking up and having to leave it behind.

I, too, have nightmares frequently, and have for many years. And when I get a rare, wonderful dream, it's like Heaven to me. I am getting more pleasant dreams as of late, and I think it's because I've been making efforts to face some of my worst fears. I'm an anxiety patient, and when I have nightmares I'm always the victim. For some reason, I never fight back. Do you have specific fears or phobias that you have not faced?

And romance is definitely NOT pathetic for a guy! It's what every girl wants! Most of us complain guys are not romantic enough. Anyway, just wanted you to know you aren't alone. Sometimes I even find myself hoping and praying I won't wake up because I don't want the dream to end. I'd gladly stay there forever!

My best dream would be with Davy Jones (yes, of the former Monkees). I dream of him often, as he was my very first crush at age eleven. It's a little too explicit to go into, but the love I felt was out of this world.

I have also dreamed of flying on a unicorn, and landing in warm water, and swimming with friendly dolphins all around me. This dream was every bit as vivid as my romantic dreams. And there are so many colors that I marvel over, but much of the time I am aware that my dream time is limited, and that's a huge bummer.

I have a lot of similar dreams of romantic love, however i would have to say that my best dream, was not of that, it was a mixture of terror and freedom (you might understand more when i tell you) It started off with me in school, my school was atop a lake, (like literately floating on a lake,i warn you my dreams are very weird, i don't dream often) and we all got on the bus (me and my fellow classmates) in which the bus was driving through the water (bear with me xD) i was staring out the window when i felt a cold rush, looking ahead i saw a giant wave crashing down on us. it engulfed the bus completely however the vehicle was successfully able to pop atop the water. all i remember after that is somehow being back at the school (i forgot what happened after the wave) and the sky was dark and covered in ash, looking to my side i remember there being a giant volcano erupting, (and i mean GIANT) i warned my best friend who was completely oblivious, thus scaring everyone into the school. after that i don't remember much however i do remember, walking outside to find my cat, he was feral and his fur turned from a white and black to a cream color, the volcano was releasing some time of toxin causing infected creatures to turn feral or RABID. He bit me when i attempted to pick him up however i never became sick, indicating i was immune to the disease. after staying in the school for several hours, We decided upon having 4 students go into the wilderness (i don't necessarily know why) i was included in the 4. we all (us 4) set off, we ventured through the forests avoiding as much animals as we could, i also noticed we were always in a state of constant adrenaline. giving us the ability to move and scale places we would never have been before. We were then chased by what i perceived as 'monkeys' we got a good distance away before one of us got injured and the other taken by the 'monkeys' me and my friend (he was one of the chosen 4) got away with but a scratch, i don't remember much after that.
Take care ~
MissLabarinth

Well I've been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder so yeah, I know that I worry way too much. And I'm pretty sure it's the source of my frequent nightmares. It feels so incredible to actually have a good dream, but I get them maybe once or twice a year. So... I don't look forward to having to sleep for the next several months.

Too bad I'm pretty much the opposite of what every girl wants in every other respect! Well, I mostly blame my social anxiety though. I simply can't function in front of a girl I'm interested in.

Thanks for sharing. The really sad thing is that this kind of triggered my depression and it's been unshakable the past few days.

Well, I believe that many, many people with anxiety disorders have nightmares. Also, it can be a result of PTSD. I worked as a veterinary technician for 12 years, and ended up with PTSD because of it, so that's another trigger for nightmares. It disturbed me more than I realized at the time. Had I known these nightmares would continue for over two decades, I never would have gone into that field!

I also have a phobia of doctors, ERs, and medical situations in general. A lot of my nightmares center around that because I haven't come to terms with it, or really even faced it.

Why do you think you are the opposite of what every girl wants in every respect? Sounds like you have low self esteem, and don't give yourself enough credit. The thing to do is expose yourself to social situations, but gradually. Don't just go to a very big party. Start small, like with just a few other people, and only stay for a short while. Do that regularly, gradually lengthening the time you stay. Don't expect anything of yourself. Mostly listen if it makes you nervous to talk. In time, you will come out of your shell. I had social anxiety for a little while, but it went away as I got older.

I know it's not widely known yet but I believe I suffer from RTS, Religious Trauma Syndrome. I was brought up in an authoritarian, fundamentalist religion that I never believed in and had to lie for a long time. I believe it's the main factor behind my depression and anxiety. I'd say at least half of my nightmares revolve around religion. Have you ever had a nightmare about heaven? It's a weird thing, I know...

You're certainly right here, I have no self-esteem. I've always been a sensitive person, to a fault I suppose. I'm socially impaired, mentally ill, morbidly obese and unemployed. I live in my parents' basement. Pretty much the definition of a loser, hah! No self-respecting female would waste a second glance on me. This isn't self-pity, just a fact.

Thanks for your reply.

No, I've never had a dream about Heaven. At least not yet... I have extremely varied dreams. I have never heard of RTS, but it sounds distressing.

Sensitive guys are the best ones! Most women admire a guy who can openly show his feelings, such as crying, and I am one of them. And no, you aren't a loser! All of your problems can be addressed and rectified. You can get out more, gradually, of course, you can see someone for your mental limitations, although I don't see that at all in your posts. You seem to be well-read and articulate. You can get help with your weight too. A low fat diet works wonders. I lost 42 lbs. a few years ago. But fear was the motivation, I have to admit. I had extremely high cholesterol, and that motivated me. Apply for jobs! Anything will do for now, until you can find something better. The key is to get up and start taking baby steps toward a more independent life, which women find attractive. God bless you parents for allowing you to live with them. You sound like a nice enough person, and there is someone for everyone in this world. I'm not just trying to boost your spirits, I'm stating facts.