Some words of wisdom

it is simply another view of another person. keep what you''re comfortable with. there's no need to be angry about someone else's views...that's all it is..something different. as Doc John said, the forum is for discussion..i see no harm in that. pat

I for one am going to continue to work toward better self-esteem
Angie

Thank you Sept-
i just printed this thread for my 19 year old daughter to read with anote from me and her dad because she has decided to dx herself as agoraphobic and is not going out to start school or work. We know she is afraid of growing up and entering the adult world so we wanted to speak to her as an adult in the words of an adult. I dont want her to identify herself as a dx (which she gave herself and refuses to see a Dr for eval) I want her ti identify herself as a human being with troubles that are to be expected and to sucessfully deal with. So again thanks for the resourse.
PS also printed for her the Nine Types of thinking ets a few threads down ty for that one

For what it's worth- from someone with crappy self esteem yet strong opinions on emotions....
I feel that it's very damaging to try to Force ourselves to change how we feel, that is to impose our thoughts onto our feelings. I cling to the notion that if we honor and express (safely!) all of our emotions, even the ones we don't like, we stand a chance to heal and evolve them naturally. I think that emotions have gotten so twisted, unappealing and dangerous at times becuse they have not been allowed expression and have build up too much charge.

Of course, having said that- I'm a mess, but one thing I know for sure- I like myself more when I actually give my emotions some space to move. I feel more tender towards myself then........

I'm brand-spanking new here and nervous about voicing opinion, but holding my nose and jumping in!

J

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I absolutely agree with you about expressing emotions. I'm so glad I have a safe and validating place to do that in therapy.

And glad you held your nose...doncha hate that burning feeling when water gets up your nose?

gg

LOL, GG

You feel safe expressing emotion in Therapy? wow... Somehow I thought that would be the last place I'd ever find that. (not that I've tried). Your tdoc must be amazing....I'm envious...my first visit was just a week and 1/2 ago and I feel very embarrassed about it and haven't heard anything back anyway, so am thinking that I may just blow it off

You had a session with a new T and you haven't heard anything back? Yikes! Did you schedule another session before you ended the first one? Or was it an intake.

I do feel very safe expressing my emotions. I agree my T is wonderful. I've been seeing him for close to 2 years now, though. The safety has been developing all that time. I was definitely embarrassed at first, and sometimes I still am.

I was really lucky that I found a good T for me on my first try with this clinic. Not everyone clicks with every T. It's kind of an "audition" process at times. If you have options and you didn't like someone, please do consider trying another T. There are so many styles of therapy and so many personalities of T's, there's bound to be several you feel comfortable with...and like I said, it develops over time.

Good luck!
gg

yes, gg- it was an intake but she's the therapist who comes out to my town once a week and she said she'd call me Wed- which is a week ago now. Maybe I should call the office.(not!) I feel so uncertain in this- like are they so busy they can't get back to me even after telling me to call if I feel suicidal...or... do they think I don't need help and should just go away? The fam. doc I saw for blood tests said to see someone regularly FOR SURE, but I don't think I want to chase them-or her- or whatever. Maybe she thinks the booklet on depression was all I needed, but I didn't find it terribly useful. You know what bugs me? She knew how uncomfortable I was in that interview- (well, I assume she did!) and aren't people who feel shamed likely to run? I don't go to doctors at the best of times (which I told her) so she knew it was very tough to just get myself into the office.

Anyway, sorry to go on and on here. Maybe I will call tomorrow. I feel stupid and obsessive about this so I should do something about it........

Well yuck. You are right, after that first session, the T should be mindful that there's a good chance the client might be embarrassed or scared or ambivalent, etc. I'm sorry they didn't call. Perhaps it's an oversight or miscommunication in her office?

Do call. You can still decide not to go, but at least you are giving yourself the option to stay with them if you want. And hopefully they will be apologetic or at least aknowledge that you have been waiting for them to contact you.

gg

But it keeps the thread going. And there's a lot of good stuff in here.

gg

Wow speechless!

No word yet?