[timeforsleep]

I have realized I cannot get a girlfreind because I give off a creepy vibe. Are their any good ways to not be creepy?

[Lenny]

Originally Posted by timeforsleep

I have realized I cannot get a girlfreind because I give off a creepy vibe. Are their any good ways to not be creepy?

Hi timeforsleep....

You say you give off a creepy vibe...

Can you make a list of what attributes contribute to this vibe?

Once you have identified those aspects of yourself that might be making you seem creepy,,,then start changing them a item at a time...

But keep in mind that you are what you are and an old philosopher once said.."Be carefull of the demons you toss aside for they may be the best part of you"

Lenny

[timeforsleep]

Hi, Lenny. I think partly because I am ugly and I have a bad personality. Maybe I dress funny too. I have been confused as to why I can't get a girlfreind for 6 years now and I heard a girl call me "creepy" behind my back recently and I suddenly realized it is not the first time I have been called that. Im feeling awful about it. Last night I was thinking about my life and I broke down.

[Lenny]

Originally Posted by timeforsleep

Im feeling awful about it. Last night I was thinking about my life and I broke down.

Hi Timeforsleep...

One persons ugly is anothers Prince....I am not being facicious here,,it is true...please be kinder to yourself...

But we can always effect improvements that make us more appealing to a larger audience...Maybe change your hairstyle and sure your cloths would be a big change...

These changes would impact how you see yourself and most women enjoy some level of confidence in their intimate freinds...

What parts of your personality do you find offensive to women or people in general?

Lenny

[lynn P.]

I'm sorry you feel this way but in a way it's good because you may be able to change whatever is putting people off. Do you have a good friend or family member who would give you an honest opinion of what he/she thinks is creepy about your your appearance or personality traits. Women have makeovers ALL the time and so can men - take a look in the mirror and see what what needs polishing up - hair, teeth and clothes. You can also go to a salon and ask them to recommend a good hairstyle. Video tape yourself talking and play it back to see if there's anything that needs changing - sometimes we don't realize how we really look when we're interacting with people. It's also good to observe those people who seems to attract others. Start exercising (weight lifting) and make your body strong. Most of all you need to work on yourself confidence.
I also like what Lenny said about how one person's ugly is another person's Prince or like I would say "there's a cover for every pot". Perconally I would rather be wit ha no so attractive guy with a nice personality/good morals than be with a HOTTIE who has a bad personality. Women also like men with a sense of humor. Best of luck in discovering yourself and being the best you can be.

[VickiesPath]

I would like to offer something.

My hubby is 11 years older than me. He is bald, has a weak chin, a humongous nose, his ears stick out because he wears two hearing aids, one behind each ear, and he has the "typical" bad English dental work. He is not George Clooney. But to me, he is Prince Charming. When he speaks, he sounds like Patrick Stewart. He tells me every single day how beautiful I am and how much he loves me. He calls me his treasure. He is kind, thoughtful, considerate and never forgets a bday or anniversary. He takes me out to dinner to "let everyone be jealous of his date."

If I had not gone on a second date with him, we would not be married ten years next week. You can't judge a book by its cover, dear.

[Lenny]

Now that is a set of words hundreds of times more valuable than the time to make each keystroke...

Lenny

[graceland]

your not creepy. Women are just *****es. Well, the ones you try to get sure are.

[ACanthony1984]

TimeforSleep- I definitely understand what you are going through. I'm in a little rut with the ladies myself. I'm 25 and am actually a pretty good looking guy and I'm tall. There's no reason I should be in a rut. But you know what? It's ALL mental. Girls like guys that are confident. Looking the role of a confident guy is half the battle. What works for me is smiling. Try smiling at everyone you encounter. If they look back then say hello. Don't walk with your head down. Look like you really are enjoying your life and people will naturally be encouraged to talk to you and approach you. It really doesn't matter what you look like. I hope this helps...Also, a GREAT book to read is by Sean Stephenson called "Get off your Buts". Sean Stephenson is 3 feet tall and confined to a wheelchair but has no problems attracting good looking women. He gives a lot of tips on how to live life to the fullest and how to be more confident. He has a very contagious smile and really enjoys life. Definitely worth reading!

[itsabigpond]

timeforsleep: have you tried asking your friends for their honest opinion on what might be giving that impression to women? Maybe it is an action that you are doing, or a posture or something. I'm not sure there is such a thing as a "bad" personality - we are all different, that's the beauty of human nature. If you want to change the way you dress, act or talk, that can all be done - if you want to do it.

Another book recommendation - get yourself a copy of The Game by Neil Strauss. That book (true story about a less-than-attractive, unconfident man who went on to become the world's greatest pickup artist) shows how it's not about how you look, but how you act, when it comes to being attractive to women. I read it after the breakup of my marriage (and subsequent breakdown) and I felt a lot more positive afterwards and began to work on my confidence. I hate my looks - I'm not good looking - but I do have a great personality and I'm beginning to let that shine through.

TinyClownFish

[billieJ]

I agree with the above responders. There are things you can change about yourself, if you need to. Exercise increases physical attractiveness, as well as self esteem. Identify your good qualities. Do you know the show Family Matters on TV? Laura didn't find the ultra-talented Steve Erkle attractive, but the beautiful Myra did! Very much so. You may be very young, and It takes time to find yourself. Early life is an awkward time for many people, who find themselves well liked and attractive to others in their 30's and upward. And remember this: What people think about us has much less to do with anything about us than it does with how we make others feel about themselves! Other-centeredness, as opposed to self-centered-ness is a quality that makes anyone attractive to others. billieJ

[Nypheria]

Pff. Dont stop being yourself and dont be sorry your just being you.

If a women cant appreciate you for you, then she isnt worth it! Someone out there will accept and love you for who you are, just dont give up because of some moronic Bitc*hes!

Just think of how superficial they are, YUCK!

[nowheretorun]

its not only how you act, time for sleep, its how you feel about yourself inside that shows on the outside.. a lot of people can act a certain way for a certain period of time, but inner truth stays with us, when we are down, and when we are up and it is very difficult to mask our true feelings... see if you can find some hobbies or activities that increase the good feelings you have for yourself.. it will naturally show on the outside... just a general rule of thumb... positive actions create positive thought, which in turn, creates more positive action

[seeker83]

Take a look at this post, it will help you to understand things a little better: http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=108356