[asp1079]

Despite me telling myself again and again it doesn't make me who I am, having the hair cut that seems too short despite being a good shape, and just going wrong every time I get it cut, is wrecking havoc on my self-esteem.

Even as I type this my hands are shaking and I feel upset to my stomach. It's the third time in just a few months I tried to recut my hair into a flattering short and a bit pixie-ish style and the hair dresser said they'd have to make it a bit shorter, but I feel like they made it TOO short in some areas.

I have a critical family member who is sure to make fun of me behind my back for it now or be all shocked in my face to make me feel even worse. I'm so worried people at school will make fun of me secretly or think it looks bad. I feel so let down by myself in general like it's my own fault this is happening. I don't know what to do.

[smmath]

first of all, i am sure that your hair looks really good but i know that won't mean much if you don't think so. i would try to think about your amazing internal traits and worry less about your physical appearance. still i know easier said than done, but it might help a little. no matter what you look like you are PERFECT!!!!

Samantha

[Ladyzero]

Play with your hair, and experiment. Gel it, and pixie it up. You go girl. Having a funky hairstyle, who would make fun ? Enjoy your individuality.

[Travelinglady]

Are you always trying to cut your own hair first and then going to a hairdresser? I suspect the hairdresser is just trying to smooth things out. Unless someone has a lot of training, I would think it would be hard to cut one's own hair.

I sometimes end up with a haircut I personally think is too short. And I feel like it makes my rather prominent nose look even bigger.

I am sorry your insensitive relatives pick on you. Shame on them.

My suggestion: Just let your hair grow out some. Don't try to cut it yourself. Then go to a hairdresser. They have picture books you can look at to see what styles you might want to try--or bring a picture in from a magazine.

At least hair grows out, so you aren't stuck with really short hair forever! Okay? Just bide your time! And as someone said, hair is a superficial thing. It is what is inside that makes you who you are.

[avlady]

That's weird I just got a pixie and i love it it looks real sassy and funky i love the pixies

[asp1079]

Originally Posted by smmath

first of all, i am sure that your hair looks really good but i know that won't mean much if you don't think so. i would try to think about your amazing internal traits and worry less about your physical appearance. still i know easier said than done, but it might help a little. no matter what you look like you are PERFECT!!!!

Samantha

I think that other people have said this to me and it doesn't look too much different from my last cut but it is just way too short and layered for me to like. I feel ruined. I really hate my whole body as well and my appearance is just a sensitive topic. I feel disgusting... as a result of the short hair incident now I am beginning not to eat anymore as much and exercising a lot to look thinner since I really feel so ugly and I have to compensate in other areas now. It's horrible. That's how messed up of a person I am. Thanks for trying to make me feel better though.

[asp1079]

Originally Posted by PAYNE1

Are you always trying to cut your own hair first and then going to a hairdresser? I suspect the hairdresser is just trying to smooth things out. Unless someone has a lot of training, I would think it would be hard to cut one's own hair.

I sometimes end up with a haircut I personally think is too short. And I feel like it makes my rather prominent nose look even bigger.

I am sorry your insensitive relatives pick on you. Shame on them.

My suggestion: Just let your hair grow out some. Don't try to cut it yourself. Then go to a hairdresser. They have picture books you can look at to see what styles you might want to try--or bring a picture in from a magazine.

At least hair grows out, so you aren't stuck with really short hair forever! Okay? Just bide your time! And as someone said, hair is a superficial thing. It is what is inside that makes you who you are.

Thanks for the long and thoughtful reply.

I feel like it was really the hairdressers' fault and not mine. I went to the same guy for three years almost and then one day he just decides to ruin my hair like he doesn't want to deal with me anymore and has no idea how to cut hair, when he's given me the same haircut for years. I grew it out about 11-12 inches and wanted it short again and he just ruined it. Then the next 2 people made it even worse. I was just trying to fix the overall look and now my life feels like it is in an awful standstill.

I definitely think that I will not really touch my hair for months now besides small touch-ups. I'm going to try to have someone find me a better hair dresser to go to. I think because I take good care of my hair and take 5,000-6,000 MCG of Biotin it grows a lot in a month, a bit under an inch sometimes, and that helps a lot too. I'm just devastated that my hair has so many thin, short layers in it when I asked for longer ones. I feel like a total, complete idiot for trusting good reviews online about the place I went to in my research. As I always, always feel, it is my own fault. I always manage to bring it back to myself which makes it even worse. Like I know the hairdresser duped me and everything, but I also blame myself and love to hate myself so that makes the whole situation 10x as bad.

Sadly I have taken in pictures every single time and they say they can do it, and yet continue to butcher it. I literally just want to braid in/sewn in hair extensions or shave my head. I can't deal with this anymore. I feel from having BDD and image problems a hair cut is more than just a hair cut. It is showing how ugly and worthless I really am if it looks bad.