[bimboh]

I am a 26 years old and i had everything in life ( money, health, career) , a successful career that i created for myself after working very hard for number of years, a whole new life to look for , I even won couple of awards in company. i was very ambitious and i used to back up with my performances. A couple of years back i took a decision of pursuing my masters , i realized i am not good at something and the only thing that is there here is the thing which i don't like to do. I have now realized that i am low on confidence and practically suck at everything i do.Since i have a bit of debt which i took for doing my masters i have no option than continuing it. I am honestly mentally very tired in doing things which i don't honestly like to but i don't have other choices. Nowadays i lack the self belief that i cant do anything (even things where just a piece of cake for me). this is primarily because i was pushed into things which where above my potential. I am a workaholic and i pretty much raise the bar of expectation, people expect more and more from me and at some point i breakdown.I cannot talk to my parents since they are a bit aged and i do not want to create more worries for them.

I never had a personal life throughout my life as i practically lived alone, i am not social although i have loads of friends. really appreciate if anyone has any good advise which would make better during this tough time.

[gayleggg]

Sorry you are having a tough time. Not sure I can offer much advice but sounds like you may be suffering from anxiety. Have spoke to a doctor about you stress. You didn't say why you gave up a wonderful career to get you masters. I'm sure once you accomplish getting you masters you will feel better about yourself for getting through it. I wish you well and don't be so hard on yourself.
Gayle

[hamster-bamster]

Try to work less and socialize more - you have loads of friends, so capitalize on that. Being a workaholic will burn you out eventually - you need to tone down workaholism and pick up socialization/relationships/sex - those kind of things. To become more rounded, so to speak.

Do not talk to your parents who are aged about your workaholism problems, not just out of a desire to not give them more worries, but because they cannot be helpful - they have not lived through the reality of modern corporate America.

There might be books on how to set realistic expectations of yourself in the eyes of colleagues and managers. Maybe post on the "work and careers" forum on this site, and you might get answers.