Self Esteem??

I know what it is, but have NEVER been able to have it, and I know now, I never will!

Think your esteem is low?

Try being a male, who:

1. Could NEVER attain a Phil Heath or Ronnie Coleman look, or anything close (Google their pictures if you do not know them)...I worked out for ages, took supplements, ate right, slept right, and even did 2 cycles of steroids....still..I have this ___'d looking physique

2. Suffer from hair loss...again, tried everything out there except a transplant, which I will not do, as I have heard too many horror stories.

3. Then...to put icing on the cake!! Try suffering from 1 and 2...and be out on a date with a girl and have had comment and salivate over guys who have 1 and 2!!!

Now...you should feel better about you!

Well, #1 might have been a problem of caloric intact. Likely you need to really crank up your caloric intake to the absurd level. I was having to take in 6000 calories a day in lean protein and complex carbs which was really hard. Talk about eating constantly, lean protein and complex carbs aren't an easy source of calories. I plateaued at around 175 lbs and 10-12% body fat. Cycling roids could even make it worse as they kick your body in high gear; great for recovery, but requiring an even higher caloric intake.

#2 Don't fight it. Shave your head. Chicks dig bald dudes, it exudes confidence and a certain rebellious nature.

#3 You should have left her on the curb to find her own way home. That had nothing to do with you, but her just being a shallow ^%$#@.

(I'm a skinny dude with hair loss myself so I know where you're coming from. Throw in ugly with a small ... well, you get the picture. It sucks.)

Hi LifeIsCruel, Well I'm glad you've knocked #1 and #2 off the table (will come back to #3) now you've given yourself an excellent start to some real self esteem
If you're basing your self esteem on appearances there will always be insecurities there for everyone. There can be SO many more meaningful things about a person than the way they look. In fact if you've you've got things of real value going on then appearance is going to mean so little anyway. Now maybe look at yourself differently, I'm sure there's things you've done or things about you that you CAN feel good about, or allow yourself to feel good about!!
Now some of the qualities I'm thinking about can be things as simple as honesty, integrity, throw in focus/discipline if you like too based on your working out, sensitivity..............
Perhaps have a think about some of the (not appearance based!!) things you value in those close to you/things important to you in them to give you an idea of where I'm coming from.
Now things like that, and you WILL have things like that (and your more meaningful life experiences) are YOU, inside you, which is where self esteem should be initially coming from. And you know, people who really matter are going to recognise that if you let it show. And those have to be the kind of people you really want in your life or to recognise you.
AND back to #3 You really want someone like that in your life??? However you looked, would you still really........???? Perhaps be a bit more choosey, eh??? THEN you'll be away!!!
Best wishes
Here if you want to talk more.............
Alison

Hey man, instead of focusing the things you think are wrong with you, make a list of the things that are COOL about you!

Hair loss on a guy isn't so bad, it's more acceptable than it is on a girl... trust me. Hair loss since age 8 due to Trichotillomania. By 15 was almost completely bald, no eyelashes, or eyebrows. For a teenage girl it was devastating. I had to wear the most obvious wigs.

If people are gonna be that distracted by your physical appearance, then they aren't worth it!! No matter how attractive they may be, if you get to know them and they care so much about superficial things, you'll soon be wishing you had chosen people by their internal characteristics instead.

Hey. I struggle with self esteem too. My face was damaged by surgery. I agree with Webgoji. A lot of guys shave their heads. I know a man about 40 years old. Besides a shaven head, he also has chinstrap whiskers. I think he is good looking.

when we have problems with our appearance that we cant change, what can and should do? embrace it. like have been said, shave ur head an OWN it. what really matters in a guy? CONFIDENCE. when someone talks about this i always remember his movie where the actor was REALLY skinny and not so good looking but as he presented himself with huge confidence and sense of humor he had girls after him. its the way u present urself that matters. i know it isnt easy, i do have my own (being skinny) but u do need to try. good luck