Toxic shame and guilt

People you know that toxic shame is the main pillar cause of low self esteem. I wanted to ask about embracing emotion subject. What to do when you carry chronic guilt of other people made painful situations which affected you or was directly made to you? I've realized that a lot of stuff I keep no matter what of other people real intentions and maybe their faults. It a lot accompanies for self esteem more looking in a deeper sense. Mainly you are taking guilt from their responsibility. So basically this is not your guilt, but probably you was 'unarmed' and took it subconsciously as shame based people usually doing it. How to embrace not your guilt ? Or how to correctly formulate situation to accept that guilt ?

Hey ernutis....welcome to P.C.

I sort of get what you are saying, its important to be empathetic and compasionate to those that need our help or reassurance. But when we ourselves are 'in a bad place' or in need of reassurance and comfort, it is more constructive to let go of guilt for those things we can't change, using our energies to strive to 'do better next time'.

Be kind to yourself ernutis. Q.L

Patience.