Attention Seekers?

Don't post here, you wont' get much Attention, Sweetys!!
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What else is new? I only get negative attention anyway......

{{{{{{{{hugs to us Fuzzy}}}}}}}}}}}

((((((((((( Mary Alice ))))))))))) Like tomi said I think, everyone needs attention so that term attention seeking isn't particularly helpful. And sometimes people haven't yet learnt how to express their needs in more constructive ways,and so do get more than their share of negative attention? What do you think?

I think the way you express your needs are very important. Some of us do not know how to do that as we were never taught how. I know I wasn't. I suppressed everything and just kept putting everything in this little room in my head and locking the door.

Yes, I believe everyone needs attention. I try so hard to give people positive feedback at work, because I believe it is good to find something worthwhile to commend someone on. I do the same thing with my son - he needs to know that he is important and that his needs must be taken care of and expressed. It's not easy.

Your first paragraph is very insightful and the little room inside and locking the door is exactly what I did throughout my childhood. And to a lesser (perhaps) extent, beyond.... so I'm left with all that crap which well causes me some "issues".

Do you get positive feedback at work from other people? You deserve it!

Thanks, Fuzzy. Yes, I get positive feedback from my boss on occasion - usually when I ask for it. But it doesn't seem the same when you ask, you know? My job basically defines "me" so I have to do well. If I fail, everything in all other areas go down hill as well. It's not the right way to look at things, I know, but I do.

And that little room got so full of "boxes" that it just couldn't handle it anymore - I think that is why I ODed in 2004.......there simply was no more room for all that stuff.

Don't let that happen to you, okay? This site is wonderful for venting and getting things out.

Mary Alice

Wow, your posts really make me think, thanks!!

I won't express my thoughts here though, trust issues Its all that "bad" crap I've had since I was a freakin baby, I'm just not "worth" it which is why most of the time I post umbrellas.

I understand all about the trust issues. I still have a hard time with my T discussing some things, and it's been awhile. He doesn't seem to understand the down side of things, he is always so positive and upbeat that it drives me crazy. I think sometimes he isn't capable of knowing what depression and "bad thoughts" are, let alone experience them.

I wish you would believe how special you are, Fuzzy. I know it is difficult to believe something nice about oneself, but ALL the people here can't be wrong.

Do you think people online really know other online people? Or does that dreadful projection monster colour things more than we'd like to admit? I know it has for me sometimes.

And then of course there's the paranoia monster who visits me sometimes too

I think we are more open to showing some of our true selves on here because we are anonymous.....but I also believe that it is too easy to get paranoid and stressed out because we all have varying issues that tell us lies about each other and ourselves.

I get very paranoid on here sometimes and I wish I could get past it, but I am certainly trying my best to not listen.

I completely agree with your first paragraph. But I wish it wasn't so.

As far as I know everyone here likes and respects you, I know I do. But as I try to tell myself, sometimes if someone dislikes you, its Their Stuff. It doesn't always help but sometimes it does. In any large group, it would be more than unusual for everyone to love each other, sad as that fact is.

It's not easy to not blame yourself when someone doesn't like you. I always say it's me.... even though rationally I know that I am not that well known here anymore.

All my life I've been striving for peace, it's just so elusive.

I usually end up blaming myself even though rationally I know it's not me....<sigh> But that's just part of the garbage that goes through my brain most of the time.

The problem I have with "attention seeking" is that it always seems to come out, "just seeking attention" as if that is somehow all the person is/does and as if seeking attention is wrong, in and of itself. It reminds me of the cartoon with the guy out in the water and the bubble over him reads, "I'm not waving you idiots, I'm drowning!" If you think about it in the "opposite" way, what kind of person, knowing someone wanted/needed attention, would deliberately not give it to them and criticize them instead! "Oh, he's just seeking attention."

Good post Perna, thanks!!

I actually do not think this term applies to me, in case there is any confusion. I've had labels I dislike and think are wrong from the medical profession, but none of them gave me this label.

If I had my notes I could "prove" it but I respect my anonymity (sp sp sp)