[Zen888]

Hello Everyone

I have this ongoing feeling that ppl in my program at school hate me. 95% of them only know me from seeing me...only a handful know me from talking to me. But still I am worried that ppl hate me or dont like me in the program.

Zen888

[nowheretorun]

hi Zen..

i remember having a lot of the same feelings back in school... maybe since they dont know you it is a little easier to tell yourself that if they did, they would love you..

remember that school is about learning.. its a time of learning about social skills and history and music, friends and boyfriends ..

during these years it seems very important to be liked and we might put a lot of investment in our popularity index..

remember if you can that high school is only a short time of your life.. after these years pass you will make new friends at work and through other social activities... you can choose peace and joy for yourself and it doesnt matter if others agree or disagree with your decision.. dont let these relationships define you... you can define yourself...

tell yourself they dont hate you, maybe they are shy and unable to express kindness to others... you dont have to choose that for yourself..

let your determination be what they admire most....

[Perna]

I take things like that to their logical extremes? If they do in fact hate you, what does that mean? If you knew for a fact they did, how would that change what you do, how would their hatred manifest itself?

Looking at extremes for me comforts me as usually none of the extremes are happening. I argue with the voice telling me different things, give "facts" and it has no response. Sometimes, to amuse myself, I just accept what it says :-)

Voice: "Those people over there hate you".
Me: "Okay. I'll go see if I can find Karen, she's kind and I don't get quite as much of a feeling that she hates me. . ."

[Irine]

((((((((zen)))))))

I can understand you! This is exactly waht i used to think/ Morevoer, i used to be so suspicious about what people said. If anybody told me anything i would think it was direceted against me.

The first question to ask would be:

Are you aure that they hate you? then-

WHY do you think they do? what reasons do they have to hate you?

ask yourself these questions. you may be surprised

[Fuzzybear]