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Dec 10, 2008, 09:37 PM
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Has anyone ever had a really good day, you are full of confidence..you love everything about yourself...you realise you are a wonderful person and you wonder why you haven't felt like this longer. If only you had known you were so wonderful. Then along comes someone to ruin your day. They say...ohh you have potential. Now I know this is a positive comment...but isn't it a lot like saying...yah you could be great...but who knows if you'll make it...it absolutely killed me...I was like wow...I thought everyone thought the same as me...that I am a great person...but obviously not...what is with that...
 ...I try so hard...I work my *** off...and someone has to say that...
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Dec 11, 2008, 01:48 PM
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Dec 11, 2008, 02:08 PM
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And IMHO your right..potential is a favored comment. It says that you are doing just fine(actually better) and with continued effort in the direction that you have demonstrated,,you will live up to your gifts and design.. It is better than being told you have reached it... Lenny
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Jan 09, 2009, 04:20 PM
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I have completely given up trying to figure out why some people make it their life long agenda to make others feel bad.
My motto for 2008 and now 2009 is "Everybody Will F With You!" I remind myself of this constantly. I don't care if it a kid or the checker at the grocery store. Some people can't stand to see others in a good mood. I have a brother who only calls to annoy the heck out of me until I feel bad. Sometimes he does it to brag, other times because he's depressed or angry. It makes him feel better. Regardless, my adopting this motto I has taken most of the sting out of insults. Now I just laugh it off and move on. Before I do that I let them know they have said something objectionable. Perfect response is usually. "Excuse me...?" Usually they don't have the guts to say it twice. If they do I will rephrase what they said the way I heard it. Sometimes they don't mean what you heard. If it was an insult I let them know how I felt about it or laugh it off and move on. I think it shows them you have a thick skin and can't be brought down so easily. 
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Jan 10, 2009, 01:40 PM
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Myo, we talked about a strong identity on another thread. A strong identity takes healthy boundaries to either listen to or deflect other's opinions, depending upon what we choose. This might be an opinion to deflect?
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Jan 10, 2009, 07:14 PM
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(((((((((((((((( myoasis89 )))))))))))))))))
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