[horsecab]

I've had a problem with rejection all my life. I get jealous way to easy. If there was ever a woman I wanted and I knew there was another guy interested too, I would always give up. It's like I accept defeat before I even try. Lately my whole attitude about this has just gotten worse. I get jealous for no reason at all. It's just so hard to stop my mind from a constant stream of self destructive thoughts. I'm convinced I'll be alone the rest of my life. Anyone else ever had such a problem with jealousy and envy to overcome?

[nowheretorun]

sorry Cab, i read this after signing out... well... the first issue i see in your statement is this statement that you feel you will never meet anyone... ever.....

i dont think this has to be necessarily true for you..... i believe in time, with help and care from someplace like this, you can get a little guidance on working out your feelings over this and you can believe in a real possibility that someone out there exists for you.. that you are not currently in a loving romantic relationship does not devalue you as a person to yourself or society.... you are still a valid member here and in your own life, with a willingness to search for better health.. that is why you came and why you stay...

i know in time you will get all the answers you are seeking here.. there are very intelligent and knowing individuals who are here offering advice, opinions and knowledge... PC is the place for answers

[Irine]

Originally Posted by horsecab

I've had a problem with rejection all my life. I get jealous way to easy. If there was ever a woman I wanted and I knew there was another guy interested too, I would always give up. It's like I accept defeat before I even try. Lately my whole attitude about this has just gotten worse. I get jealous for no reason at all. It's just so hard to stop my mind from a constant stream of self destructive thoughts. I'm convinced I'll be alone the rest of my life. Anyone else ever had such a problem with jealousy and envy to overcome?

I understand how you feel when you give up b4 even trying. It despare.

Were you not eccepted in society frmo yong age? have you been an outsider? Or is it only with women?

When you were a teen - did you feel that girls don`t pay much attention to you?

I too am alone now - because i prefere it, i think, just for now.

I think that sometimes its hard to meet the perosn you get longe with. its o.k. takes time

For simple people or more lukcy people it takes more time than for more intelligant complicated people. not ALWAYS true,,, but many times it is.

[horsecab]

Originally Posted by ladymacabethadmunsen

I understand how you feel when you give up b4 even trying. It despare.

Were you not eccepted in society frmo yong age? have you been an outsider? Or is it only with women?

When you were a teen - did you feel that girls don`t pay much attention to you?

I too am alone now - because i prefere it, i think, just for now.

I think that sometimes its hard to meet the perosn you get longe with. its o.k. takes time

For simple people or more lukcy people it takes more time than for more intelligant complicated people. not ALWAYS true,,, but many times it is.

I had trouble growing up with friends. One friend in particular from age 13-17 made me so self conscious about my looks it made me withdraw terribly. Even though I had poor grooming in high school, I still had girls tell me I was cute. I was afraid to believe them. My friends made me feel everyone was only setting me up to be hurt. I think my problem now is that I'm starting to get older, and feeling more desperate for approval from women. Everyone seems younger, better looking, smarter, more experienced, etc...etc... And yet I know most of it is in my mind. I've spent most of my life alone because I wanted it that way, and yet at the same time I long for one true love. I'm just so afraid of rejection I can't bear to risk it. And every time I've tried I've been hurt. It's been a self fulfilling prophecy.

Originally Posted by horsecab

I had trouble growing up with friends. One friend in particular from age 13-17 made me so self conscious about my looks it made me withdraw terribly. Even though I had poor grooming in high school, I still had girls tell me I was cute. I was afraid to believe them. My friends made me feel everyone was only setting me up to be hurt. I think my problem now is that I'm starting to get older, and feeling more desperate for approval from women. Everyone seems younger, better looking, smarter, more experienced, etc...etc... And yet I know most of it is in my mind. I've spent most of my life alone because I wanted it that way, and yet at the same time I long for one true love. I'm just so afraid of rejection I can't bear to risk it. And every time I've tried I've been hurt. It's been a self fulfilling prophecy.

{{{{{Horsecab}}}

Me too.

Patricia

[Puffyprue]

me.....i have big issue with that but i ever heard this that All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.

[shezbut]

I've always struggled with feelings of rejection. For as long as I can remember, even as a little girl (in kindergarten and up) I have fought thoughts such as: I'm unlikeable, dumb, ugly, etc.

I've also been very envious of others from teen years on up. I often try to remind myself that everyone has problems (we're all human), just different types of problems. However, it's sometimes easy to reject my rationalization that not everyone does have it that tough. Nobody ever said life is fair. That's the depressing part for me, so I try to stop all thoughts at that point & work on a word find puzzle or something completely unrelated to me. I'm with you ~ !

Shez