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Old Apr 15, 2009, 04:31 PM
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Old Apr 15, 2009, 04:35 PM
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Self-care is the number one thing especially when caring for others.

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Old Apr 15, 2009, 04:39 PM
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Here, Here Fuzzy....

Self care is most important.

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Old Apr 15, 2009, 04:40 PM
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(((((((my fuzzy friend))))) breathe ok? you are much appreciated for you
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Old Apr 15, 2009, 04:42 PM
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Fuzzybear I, just recently, made the decision to put myself above everyone/everything else and it is so scary and weird, but feels really good! I hope you are ok. Just remember that you can't please all the people all the time.....it can be exhausting!
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Old Apr 16, 2009, 12:23 AM
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Old Apr 16, 2009, 06:30 AM
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little fuzzy dude, sometimes we need to do this and it comes down to exactly that. I'm mostly of that mind too. I mean, I am nice and respectful, but I am not going to change who I am just because someone doesn't like some aspect of that(unless i see they have a valid point, like people did when I was addicted to drugs - in that case I made the change to better myself) But when it comes down to little things, case in point, my peircings.. my family hates them, my doctor hates them, my social worker says they make me look less responsible.. I just let it roll off my back. They might not like it but my peircings make me feel beautiful. So the hoodelly Heck with them I say!
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Old Apr 16, 2009, 12:32 PM
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Old Apr 16, 2009, 12:55 PM
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Jme, but ya please one and someone else gets upset 'cause we didn't do it their way...

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Old Apr 16, 2009, 03:38 PM
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I'm with ya fuzzy!! You can't please everyone....just do what internally feels "right" to YOU.
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Old Apr 17, 2009, 12:11 AM
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I wish I was done with it Fuzzy. Its like built in to my psyche. I'd rather everyone else be content and happy than me!!!

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Old Apr 17, 2009, 06:22 AM
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i agree with others fuzzy self care is first, i too dont always put that first but we should remind our selves sometimes that pleasing others isnt as inportant as pleasing our selves

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Old Apr 17, 2009, 05:05 PM
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Old Apr 18, 2009, 09:22 AM
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Jme, but ya please one and someone else gets upset 'cause we didn't do it their way...
Isn't that the truth!
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Old Apr 18, 2009, 12:26 PM
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Set healthy boundaries with people in your life and know your own limitations.
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Old Apr 20, 2009, 09:55 AM
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Old Apr 20, 2009, 11:26 AM
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Old Apr 22, 2009, 09:54 PM
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Hi Fuzzzzzyyyyy......

Please take care of yourself right now. You sound overwhelmed.

It's okay to step back, get recharged and do something good for you first.

"Once you're used up there is no more you"

Go play - or what ever makes you happy right now. If you don't remember what makes you happy it's really time to play!
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Old Apr 24, 2009, 03:34 PM
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((((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))) Take care of yourself and try to do right by others and be true to what you believe...that is all any of us can do. You are a wonderful person and I appreciate you
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Old Apr 24, 2009, 06:30 PM
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I have felt the same way sooooo often fuzzy. Hang on, don't try to please everyone it is impossible. We are worth so much more than to not be appreciated. Everyone needs time alone to rest, reflect and regain our inner strength before we go forward again because we will have people we do want to please who truly appreciates it, and will want to please us.

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Old May 03, 2009, 04:10 PM
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I hear ya fuzzybear.. Setting healthy "boundries" and self care is so important to one's well being....

A healthy balance does not include always pleasing others. When we spend our lives pleasing others we somehow lose more of our self worth even tho ones that tends try to always please others, already have low self esteem...And pleasing others never builds our self esteem... We either become taken for granted, floor mats or many times just used...

Being a people pleaser all of my life and just starting to say no has cause several folks to vent their anger and some times rage towards me. This some times feels worse than taking the easy way out and saying yes. But, standing strong on our decisions can be self empowering, which in the long run is a "good thing"..
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Old May 07, 2009, 06:49 PM
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Pleasing people at the expense of yourself is what causes problems.

If I take care of myself first, then I don't end up resenting others and feeling like crap myself.
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