[Christina86]

People who don't know anything outside of a textbook should SHUT UP about how I deal with my feelings and stuff - especially about situations of abuse!!

My "disability coordinator" told me she didn't think I was "over" the assault that happened to me in November because I talked about it *in public*. Yes, I'm not apt to keep it quiet. Did that, but it's nothing horribly traumatic. It was just ... gross. But not the most traumatic thing I've ever been through!

So apparently talking about it out loud in a waiting room and in front of people (okay, I seriously JUST SAID: Was assaulted in November, a guy tried to cram his tongue in my mouth) means I'm *clearly* not over it.

Sure, it wasn't the best situation but I didn't want to waste her time and book an appt to get her up to speed with stuff. Then she went all stupidly concerned and tried AGAIN to get me to see an oncampus T. I've got one off campus, kthnxbai! She was all like "how are you dealing, are you seeing someone, do you need to talk, are you sure youre dealing with it, are you taking your antidepressants".

Grrr. It's NOT HER BUSINESS NOR RESPONSIBILITY. I was just explaining why I've basically flunked most of my classes this year. Yes, I'm over that ONE incident - but it brought up more stuff from the past which is a BIT MORE FREAKING COMPLICATED and I don't need her trying to boss me around. I havent lost my mind, Im actually fine around guys again and I dont have triggers as a result.

If this is what I get for actually keeping her informed - well then she can remain safely in the dark.

I worked hard to get to an emotionally good spot and she told me she didnt think I was over it...

She's not a therapist, she's got her Masters in Psychology but SO WHAT?@!? She knows squat.

I'm clearly mad because she made me question my abilities to cope. I hate people invalidating me.

She just cares about you I guess...in her bossy and invalidating sort of way? It doesn't have to be her business or responsibility for that

It sounds to me like she doesn't know the whole situation though...not saying that she should know, but when people don't know everything they are bound to say things like that.

I can understand why you are angry though

[mixedup_emotions]

I can feel your anger and frustration. I always thought that my SA was no big deal. It was a one-time thing, yes scary, disgusting and humiliating...but then it was over, and I "got over it".

I am just now starting to realize that in some ways I guess I never really did "get over it" and it affected other parts of my life (dislike intimate touch).

I'm not saying that's the case with you, but I do feel as though perhaps it's just out of genuine caring to want to be sure you are ok.

[Kiya]

(((((((((((((((Christina)))))))))))))))))))
I'll Grrrrrrrrrrrr for you too, k?!

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((( Christina ))))))))))))))))

[Christina86]

*sheepishly enters the forum*

I'm not over it. I thought I was. I'm not. I hate her for being right. I also hate her invalidating me. But grrr.

I'm trying to apply for "special consideration" to get my marks wiped off my record (since I flunked classes) this year. I have to do a bunch of paperwork as a result. Like mentioning the assault for one.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRR. *Christina is not happy*

Stupid. Stupid stupid brain. Stupid mind trying to stupidly mess with me.

I'm going to sit and sulk now, very quietly. Thank you for caring everyone.

[Kiya]

not stupid - you'd not let me get away with that. I won't let you either. your brain does the best for you as it can and tried to keep you on even keel...called coping.
I support you!
Kiya

[NuckingFutz]

i had an assigned caseworker like that once...put words in my mouth. Did not trust her after that. I shut down on her for my sanity and safety...shared nutral issues with. The ironic thing about this is that if trust is breached, it defeats the purpose. She is wasting her time and yours. I just say fill out the paperwork and just do what you need to do 2 fix your school record. hugs to you!

((((((((christina))))))))))
i hate it too when ppl say something thats the truth and as much as you dont want it to be it is.
its ok to take time to get over something traumatic we are allowed that time
i hope you get ur special consideration

[Typo]

*runs and hugs Christina and sit with her*

You are far from stupid sweetie, I understand how you feel.
you are very brave and smart, I understnad your GRRRRRR, I'll grr with you and Kiya too, we can have a GRR party

Always here for you hun!

sending lots of hugs and positive vibes your way
Sparrow

[Kiya]

Oooooooooooh! A GRRRR Party!!! i LIKE it!