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May 25, 2005, 12:28 PM
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In Oct. of last year my boyfriend started abusing me and when I tried to leave he decided that i had to stay so he would tie me up so I couldn't. He was very abusive physically. He would take a bat and wrap a towl around it and hit me. He also let his friends come over and do whatever they wanted to do, then proceed to call me a ***** and a slut. I was in this situation for three months. My family filed a missing persons report on me and the cops came to the house and got me out. I have been in and out of mental facilities since then. A couple of months ago I started the filing process for an order of protection. He is currently living in Michigan and the law there states that the sheriff's department can not serve him. The lawyer that is doing this pro bono said that it will cost me $50 to get him served. I am currently not working and my parents do not have the money. Should I just drop the whole thing, or try to find another way to serve him? I go to court on Friday.
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May 25, 2005, 01:00 PM
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Just my humble opinion: if you can find any way at all to have the order of protection served, go for it. Is there any domestic violence support group in your area that perhaps can help with funds? I'm thinking that along with the fact of the order is also the psychological boost for you, the knowledge that you are continuing to get yourself safe and that you are not available for abuse. And that the law in on your side.
Heartfelt congrats also on all the work you are doing, you are an inspiration. Sarah
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May 25, 2005, 02:20 PM
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I wouldn't drop it. Contact an abuse shelter. Maybe they have a fund of some sort that helps women in your situation, or can point you to a place that does.
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May 25, 2005, 03:45 PM
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Do not drop this, what if he does this to another woman, Kathie your family helped you get away, someone else might not be so lucky
Angie
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May 25, 2005, 03:52 PM
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Thanks everyone for the words of encouragement. I really need them. I am having problems dealing with what went on and my pdoc also agrees with the fact that i might be able to move on with my life after this all said and sone. I have some crazy thoughts now and then, but i am glad that i have you guys to straighten me out some. Thanks for everything. I will call some places tomorrow and see where to go from there.
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May 25, 2005, 07:29 PM
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Kathie, make no mistakes, you were tortured. Please do as everyone suggests and get in touch with a woman's shelter. He should be served and you should have that right of saying outloud that he hurt you horribly. You are a gutsy gal. Keep on coming here and please believe in yourself and your right to be treated with love and respect.
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