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Feb 17, 2010, 06:27 PM
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I was abused by my dad as a kid and I really don't know what having or talking with an actual father feels like. I am 18 years old and this has caused me to want to be the best dad when I have kids. Is there any fathers that could give me advice or that I can just talk to? Whenever the subject of dads or fathers come up when I'm with friends, I get really depressed and I want to get rid of this. Sometimes I really cant take it. Any help would be greatly appreciated
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Feb 17, 2010, 09:41 PM
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Hi. I'm a mother, but I just wanted to say, I feel the same way when I hear people talk about their fathers. I want to be the best parent to my son, but I struggle a lot. I've only met two guys that I thought were great fathers, that was my ex's father and my uncle. But that doesn't change my opinion about them as a whole. My husband is in jail, and I hope when he gets out and I see him with my son, my opinion will change. I know most fathers can't be all that bad. And thank you for wanting to be a better parent also.
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Feb 18, 2010, 01:48 PM
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Working through your own issues is the best gift that you can give to your children. Are you in therapy?
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Feb 18, 2010, 04:52 PM
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No I'm not in therapy. I just get pretty depressed sometimes, but I guess thats just normal for someone in my situation and I'm just going to have to live with it. Helping kids and learning how to be a great dad in the future is my anti-depressant for now
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Feb 19, 2010, 11:14 AM
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One person's opinion: “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” ~Theodore Hesburgh
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Feb 19, 2010, 11:31 AM
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Therapy is for depression (among other things). You can choose to just live with it or you could choose to do something nice for yourself and choose therapy.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Feb 19, 2010, 02:31 PM
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I'm sure when the time is right for you to become a Father, you'll know instinctively what you must do to love your child, don't worry too much, it will all come very naturally when you lay eyes on your newborn child. You will put all your fears aside and become the best Father anyone can be.
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