My dad has never come to visit me before. Even when we lived 15 minutes apart. Now we live 6 hours. He is bringing my brother back to my house from his visit with them and going to help fix some of the things around the house. I feel so nervous. I don't know why. I feel so angry and afraid that I'll display resentment. Living away has helped me allow my feelings to come up with him, but its wierd to think that he willsleep in my house now. The same house that I've cried tears in over him. My emotions are crazy.

Sometimes it's a strange feeling for some of us, when family members act towards us the way we've always wished they would.

He's coming to fix things around your place and be near you... I suspect that feels a bit odd as it's not what you're used to.

Sounds like a wonderful thing.... do you think perhaps having your brother for a time has shown your dad what you go through with your brother everyday? I hope your dad and brother appreciate you.

How about if you try just living in the moment. If he's congenial, maybe setting the past aside would help you to accept his presence more openly? Just a suggestion.... I know how hard it is to set past pain aside- I'm just hoping for you that your dad has nothing but good intentions and your best interest at heart--- you so deserve that.

Wishing you the best and keep us posted on the visit.

Mandy

[Miss_A]

It seems like you might not have a very close bond with your dad. Fair enough but now he comming to see you. I think you should send the time. Talking about not personal stuff but like how have you been? We regret it when someone we love goes and we even more regret the little time we have with them. So make the most of it and the out come with your dad could be that if worse comes to worse he will be there for you like you will be there for him! Having weird feelings are normal if you have been so far apart...
My advice try to do the best you can to make the most of it when he comes around. Also let go of the past and see him as your dad not a stranger. Good luck esthersvirtue be you!