I don't want to need help

I'm tired (physically AND emotionally), angry and frustrated, and I can't even go into detail because it would take forever, and issues that don't seem related somehow are.

I'm tired of fighting a battle with someone who thinks they're 100% right always. I'm tired of dealing with something that acts more like a politician who has to win at all costs than a human being. I'm tired of being uninsured and in dental pain. I'm tired of not being able to provide enough for my kids because he refuses to give me a tax break. I'm tired of still being a victim and having all of my anger stem from someone that I was supposed to be rid of 5 years ago.

Where's MY knight in shining armor who will let me move in with my kids rent free and pay all my living expenses to boot? I'm supposed to provide for my kids financially and emotionally and without a single tax break or government assistance because of his shady financial maneuvering, while he supports a g/f and her kid and ignores his own kids' emotional and financial needs.

It's not fair.

I want to give up and I can't.

wi fighter,

((((((((((((((((((((((wi fighter)))))))))))))))))))))))

i'm so sorry. you've shown amazing strength. i can only imagine your physical and mental exhaustion.

i pray for you and your children.

kd

It stinks that the system is failing you. If I can help, let me know. You're in my thoughts. Kimmy is right, you've shown amazing strength. I don't know if I could have continued to fight like you have.

Thinking of you.

Shirley I'm so sorry you are going through this. You're right--- it's not fair!!!

Your'e also right-- that you can't give up-- your kids need and love you, and you yourself deserve inner peace and being able to take care of the needs that you have-- like dental work. Not familiar-- but there must be some kind of low-fee dental place? -- wish I knew more about that.

I can understand your being tired-- I feel for you. We're here to lean on anytime you want. Wish I could do more-- for what it's worth-- know that I'm here and listening. t/c

Mandy

Thanks everyone for the encouraging words.

I just got some more news a few minutes ago. I don't understand why the ex thinks he is special and can ignore the legal system. About six weeks ago we got notice that we had five days to each send in $500 for a guardian ad lidem. I mailed mine in but never got the proof of payment that I need to give to the GAL so she can get her investigation under way. He went and hired his own lawyer instead. It's past the point of a lawyer. It's the GAL's decision now, so I don't understand why he did that.

I have to contact my lawyer and let him know. He told me that if the ex failed to pay his half, he needed to report it.

Mandy, I'm past the point of being able to afford low-cost dental care. I need to find someone who will do it pro bono.

I applied for VA benefits, but even if I qualify, there's a 12-18 month wait because all of the clinics are filled up. I have a sinking feeling I won't qualify because I don't get to claim the kids on taxes, and it's based on income and household size. I meet the income qualifications based on 2 dependents, but the kid's SSNs will show up as being his dependents not mine.

I feel like I'm still being abused even though I don't have to live under the same roof any more.

Shirley,

Well, that just sucks--- not being able to claim your kids as dependents-- when they ARE!!!!!!!!! Is there anyway that can be changed?? How frustrating!!!

Be kind to yourself today-- take a break: a bubble bath, a relaxing walk, perhaps a sinful dessert!! Remember to reward yourself for things to be proud of--- like reaching out here, and taking good care of and loving your kids. You are a special person. t/c

Mandy

Mandy, that's why I started this whole legal fight to begin with, to make some changes to unfair practices. Now he's trying to prove that I'm less fit as a parent because I'm in a single-parent household and don't have a burgeoning social life.

It started out as me wanting to right some wrongs and now it's turning into a huge custody fight.

I know that this seems like a never ending battle with Him!!! I hate that you have to go through this... no one should hae to put up with this!!! I admire you for the courage you have shown so far..it always seems that when you are at your lowest...you seem to somehow some way bounce back. You are a very strong woman...for that you should be proud.

Please don't give up!!!!!

I'm paranoid that he's being all sneaky now and trying to make everything I do look incompetent.

After 14 years, he's all of a sudden taken an interest in the kids' health. It's like his lawyer is telling him to beat me to this stuff to show he's better than me. Thing is, he wants me to clear medical appointments with him beforehand, but he didn't tell me he had physicals scheduled until I mentioned that I needed to make an appointment. What's with the double standards?

The Sunday before 4th of July, a plate broke and I threw it in a plastic bag that was hanging on the basement railing. I didn't take it out to the garbage can right away and my son walked past it and cut his calf on a piece of glass. I had to take him to the ER to get it looked at because it was gaping open. it wasn't deep and quit bleeding, but I figured I should have it looked at. I immediately felt like the ex would take that info to his lawyer to prove that my house is unsafe.