[CJR520]

My sister and I talked for a long time last night, and I think that the things that happened to us as children affected her more than they did me. I was the oldest, so she saw our parents send me many states away to be married at sixteen, left with a preemie baby with no family to help me. Then, her own problems when she went to college and got no help from our parents, not even encouragement !! She went to college 45 minutes from home, and Dad said to her that she should not expect to come home and have him running to pick her up. They told her she wouldn't make it anyway. Now, our parents, especially Mom, are saying, Oh, we never did those things or said those things!! We have a younger brother who just floats along. He has had two breakdowns where he has had to stay home for weeks at a time. I had that happen to me once. We are all in our fifties now, but life events sure do affect people all of their lives. I thinkd my sister is still trying to get a pat on the back from Mom and Dad. I gave up on that a long time ago. I just do my own thing and say what I think is right, love my kids and grandkids, and try to be happy. Life is too short!! The thing is, I don't think my sister knows she is doing this. Inside, she really wants Mom and Dad just to tell her what a good job she has done with her life and her kids, etc. So, I guess I will tell her !!

[vanna123]

Understand! please tell your sister what you think of her. I left my family of origin many, many years ago and got on with my life. My sister did not and still constantly seeks approval --- I wish I could have told her what a great person she was and how much I admire her courage.
who do you get your encouragement from -- hubby, kids, grandkids, friends? we all need to hear how important we are. it sounds like your important to your children and grandchildren !!!
Tell us how it goes with your sister.
Take Care