[jenn33]

lv'e been with the same guy for eight yrs We have been married a year. This weekend is our first Aniv. We did'nt do anything l didnt get flowers not a Happy Aniversery nothing l went to bed at 9pm crying wondering if l should leave him. Our relationship has been so unhealthy. He wont help me clean he drinks every other day l dont know what to do.

[Lexicon78]

In my opinion, it doesn't sound good. I think I would seriously consider leaving, especially if there was no celebration of your being together after only a year of marriage. Also, the drinking poses a problem, too, I assume.

I was with an alcoholic and it destroyed our relationship. Please be careful. I hope you make the choice that will be healthier for your well-being.

[Rapunzel]

The drinking, and that you feel that the relationship is unhealthy, both make me concerned. It's also strange that your first anniversary was not celebrated. Did you say anything about it? And why not, if you didn't? If you did, how did he react? Guys don't put as much stock in anniversaries and birthdays, your first anniversary is still a pretty big deal.

((((((hugs))))))

[bipolar_bear]

Anniversaries are special days in a relationship. Combined with the drinking a warning flag goes up to me. Only you can decide what you consider is a healthy relationship to you and your husband. Maybe you should discuss your disappointment both in his forgetting your anniversary but also about his drinking. A good relationship usually is open to both parties concerns and needs. Your needs are just as important as his.