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my abusive ex has so much power over me still
I was not ready for the divorce but my lawyer and therapists forced me to promising good things and everything now my parents are against my reconciliation my abuser tells me i was misled and that he is not that bad our couple's counselor is on his side my therapist is against my reconciliation and I seem to be still blinded by my abuser because i want to reconcile i cannot handle being divorced and custody and all alone and getting old and dying it is too much and too long work to do to heal from abuse and leave him and i do not have that time and I am completely isolated and alone whereas he has an incredible support network around him sometimes i believe him fully and trust him and other times i sense he has not changed and nothing can be right between us i will be miserable as a single divorced parent i don't have any confidence or self-esteem to handle it i am so very weak and vulnerable and terrified of aging and dying and paralyzed by fear that i cannot cope with not reconciling it makes me more miserable though I wish I had an adequate support network in place in these two years I have gotten much worse i know i should let him go but I can't |
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Can you work on a support network?
I don't think that I have every heard of a divorced couple in counseling. Was this the ex's idea?
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both of ours
I just want my life back it is too traumatic for me every time my kids come and go and I miss everything but the abuse about the life I had my father yells at me and promises me that i will never be well if I go back to him and that once I let him go and get rid of him in my mind and stop wanting to go back I will be fine but then my ex says all these things to convince me otherwise, his mother keeps calling me, his sister, and they were mean to me as well, and I just can't take it I am just so confused |
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I can see that you don't believe in yourself, that you can make it without him? And him comes with abuse. It is a package.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ Last edited by Sannah; Aug 30, 2010 at 07:42 AM. |
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